The Washington Post is currently conducting an online chat with the authors of "The Man Whisperers," Samantha Brett and Donna Sozio. "Man Whispering" is a heterosexual dating technique that urges women to suppress the gender equality of the career world in order to "restore feminine communication" to relationships through the elimination of unnatural female "nagging." As you might imagine, The Man Whisperers have some interesting thoughts on feminism. Thanks to some intrepid chatters, we've been treated to an in-depth examination of the Man Whisperer Feminist Theory:
It's not sexist—even men like it!:
Setting back the women's movement: The whole concept of women needing to adjust their communication style to placate men rubs me the wrong way. How about men being a little less defensive and giving us the benefit of the doubt? And the idea of likening it to the people who train dogs... well, no comment. Gee whiz.
Samantha Brett: Thanks for your question! Firstly, we'd like to say that Man Whispering isn't about "placating" men at all... it's about adjusting the female style of communication so that both women and men are put in a win-win situation. No woman enjoys nagging and nagging while her man still continues to ignore her, and no man likes to be nagged at! In fact, we've given the book to loads of men (who have given it to their wives and girlfriends), and even after reading it themselves, the men are thankful that we are teaching women this new style of communication. The men find that when their women attempt Man Whispering, it instantly improves their relationships and they are happier for it!
Inequality is feminist!:
Washington, D.C.: From your website: "Can you be a Man Whisperer and a Feminist? Absolutely! "MWing" is about equality in the boardroom and in our pay checks but we've discovered that in the bedroom, complimentary relationships work better than trying to be "equals" with your man. Complimentary relationships are where you leverage off each others strengths and do not try to be just like one another."
Which type of relationship teaches you to spell "complementary" correctly?
Samantha Brett: Haha great question... we'll get this fixed :)
True equality is when even lesbians can benefit from inequality with their significant others:
Dupont Circle: I'm a lesbian. I don't have any trouble meeting other women, but it never works out well. Would your techniques work on them too? Donna Sozio: YES! And this is why. Even in lesbian relationships one woman is the more masculine energy and one woman is the more feminine energy. Which were you? Figure that out and then learn to whisper to the other.
Nevermind! People of the same sex don't ever fall in love:
What's up with nagging?: Why are you positioning nagging as a women's problem? This is what I don't understand. I also don't understand the concept of "feminine communication" and still maintain that you are in the business of placating men. One might argue that men are the weaker sex when it comes to communication and might be better served with advice.
Donna Sozio: This communication style doesn't placate men. It builds chemistry with men. In a romantic situation, a man wants to feel like he's with a woman. Not another man. Men don't fall in love with accomplishments. There is nothing a woman can DO that will ever "impress" a man enough to fall in love with her. Men fall in love with who we ARE. And Man Whispering is a communication technique that allows women to show men who we are... not all that we have done. I hope that clarifies.
How long before the chat implodes under the weight of two accomplished women sharing their vast career insights into how to downplay your accomplishments in order to cultivate a more feminine energy? Shhhh! Masculine forces could be listening in!