- When college students "can't imagine" these coming out. (Photo: Associated Press)
Parents, teachers, sex reporters, and other adults looking for a creepy window into the sex lives of our nation's youth! Welcome to TBD's digest of local college sex columns:
COLLEGE STUDENTS dish on their preferred safer sex methods. CONDOMS: "Until my partner and I are monogamous, I always use a condom during intercourse . . . I’ll put on my partner’s condom as part of foreplay. You can incorporate it into a handjob or put it on with your mouth.” PULLING OUT: "I’ve been having sex since I was 16 with the same partner, and we never use condoms . . . I never liked them—they’re annoying. We used the pull out method.” TESTING: “It’s the typical ‘you have sex with everyone your partner’s had sex with’ story . . . Even though he was my only sexual partner, it can still happen.” NADA: “I have never practiced safe oral sex . . . When I was younger that seemed to be the activity of choice, and no one was safe about it. I couldn’t imagine asking someone to put a condom on for that.”
QUEENS AMONG US: "Pageant stereotypes have portrayed female contestants as bathing-suit-wearing, stage-strutting, baton-juggling lovers of world peace," the GW Hatchet reports. GW sophomore and Miss Teen USA 2011 contestant Imani Bentham "doesn't juggle a baton, but instead balances classes, an internship, membership in the Black Student Union, pageant responsibilities and work as assistant editor-in-chief of The Ace Magazine." BENTHAM ON STAYING OUT OF TROUBLE: "It has become more difficult because you're on a college campus . . . With social media it's hard to contain what images get out . . . If someone even assumes something is happening, it can be a problem. I've been trying to keep a low key social life." AND BEING A ROLE MODEL: "Little girls come up and ask if you're a princess and if you have a castle . . . During the year, I hope to get to continue with volunteer experience, to get to talk with girls and inspire them to compete . . . To let them know it's OK to be kind of quirky. You don't necessarily have to fit a certain mold to be in a pageant."
SHOTS FOR BOYS: Holly Crowe of GW sex blog the Second Sex Column takes on Gardasil's gendered marketing: "the CDC decided to recommend the three course vaccine to women aged 9 to 26. I celebrate this first step and its implications for women’s health, but it begs the question, what about the boys? If the goal is to reduce the prevalence of HPV infection, why are we ignoring such a large percentage of carriers?" Crowe writes. "I don’t expect altruistic concerns for a future partner to motivate young men to get the shot, although if a vaccine were available for women to reduce the chance of giving their partner prostate cancer it would be mandated by law faster than you can say 'patriarchy.'"
HOOK UP, HOOK DOWN: The University of Virginia debates casual sex. “There are people saying hooking up is empowerment of women, and it used to be that only bad girls could express themselves; now, it’s more socially acceptable for anyone to be able to please themselves,” sociology grad student Fan Mai, who studies student takes on the "hook up culture," told the Cavalier Daily. “The other side says, ‘Wait a minute: there’s a gender double-standard. Both sexes can hook up, but if girls do it too much it can damage reputations. For girls it’s a walk of shame, but for guys it’s a walk of pride." HOOKING UP CONS: If you don't latch on to a good one now, you could risk loneliness forever. As one student told the paper: “It’s not necessarily always good to be afraid of legitimate commitment, and once we leave this place it’s going to be considerably more difficult to find your match, so people should at some point begin to take relationships more seriously." HOOKING UP PROS: If you jump into a serious relationship, you'll miss out on all that hooking up. Says Mai: "There’s a peer pressure out there, and generally people feel that their peers and friends are doing more hooking up than they do . . . So, people think, ‘I should be more open to this. I’m out of place. Maybe I’m not using all of my college time?’ Everyone thinks college is the perfect time and place for sexual experiment.”