(Posted 78 days ago)

Do's and Don'ts:

Do button your lip and listen. They may have plans and dreams and once they truly feel you are listening in a neutral yet helpful way you may actually find out what is behind the issue. There is something going on. It may be that she has a medical issue. Perhaps some of her peers are pressuring her to do things she doesn't want to do. Many people cover their fear with anger, so it may take a few sessions and chats to break down the barriers. Simply telling the kid they're fat and need to work out is a fine way of alienating them. Who knows what is truly troubling her, but as a parent you are duty-bound to help her. Believe me, she's noticed and it's out of control, and you better believe she is scared spitless! I know I've been there. Barbara has the right idea in being there, being supportive and never taking away the love.

Say This:

"Hey, there you are! How long has it been since we had a good gossip? The rest of the family's out. What say you and I go to [insert favorite cafe, beach, semi-private spot] and catch up!

[chatchatchat] . . . So, that's where your dad/mamma2/dad2 and I are at, what do you think . . . What about college?