Maybe he is looking for a good excuse to smoke pot.

Sometimes it's best not to disclose some of the things we did in our past .

e honest tell him if you did or didnt dnt lie to your kids

Tell the truth--and the consequences. I remember all those "Take LSD and you will jump out the window" propaganda booklets. They were so foolish, lots of us took LSD. Maybe it's better to just remember what messed you up about drugs, if you used them.

I think you can be honest with him about it yet still discourage it. Believe it or not, teenagers still rate their relationship with parents as the highest on the list and they need to trust you. I think too many parents fall into the dictator role instead of the parenting role. Teenagers listen more to those they have relationships with, including mom and dad.

light up a joint and have a real conversation with him.

bill

Honesty is always the best policy. Telling them why you did,why you stopped or telling them why you never started will help them form their opinion. Teenagers do look up to their parents, even though they may not show it.

Are we talking about teenagers here or grown children asking as one adult to another? We were all young once. I think kids just want to know that parents aren't perfect. Mistakes are how we learn and grow. I give my daughter the pros and cons, but she knows that whatever she does, she's responsible for. She also knows she's not me. We make our own choices and deal with our own fall-out.

I would be honest regardless of his or her age. Kids know if you are telling the truth. If you did smoke pot, it does not mean your kids will think it is ok as long as you can give them good reason not to. Such as,it's illegal and the consequences are more stern than when we were kids, many companies drug test now days, smoking pot can interefere with one's judgement and can keep a person from reaching full potential if they are just setting around getting high. There have been some recent studies that long term pot smoking may lead to depression and anxiety due to interference with nuerotransmitters in the brain, but the results are not conclusive. I have also read that today's pot is much stronger than the stuff of twenty or so years ago. Just some thoughts.

I love the "light up a joint and have a real conversation with him". That is good. I smoke pot no more only due to the slothful stupor effect it has on my motivation. I did this for some fifteen straight years and if I had it to do over again, I would probably change only two details, 1. more 2. faster.

I have been asked by my teenage children if I ever smoked pot. I answered with the above. Only because it's true. My teenage children will choose what to do with their lives just like me. I have no control over their choices, once they are adults, just like my parents had no control over me.

The stuff is considered illegal and I let them know that I will also not lend a financial hand in paying attorneys to talk them out of what they behaved themselves into, pot, drugs or any other bad behavior. They get in, they get out, just like me. That's the risk besides lung cancer from the carbon monoxide which is electively ingested.

My kids are quite bright and I feel quite confident that I have been nothing but a pretty good example of how to keep the nose to the grindstone and work for a good living. I chose to stop this and all other bad habits on my own, well before they came along. I just could not lie to them. Am I afraid they'll try it? Nope. They proabably already have.

I want them really to focus on the most addictive drug ever, which I will help them build. Cashflow, the old fashioned legal way.

When the subject came up with my boys, I was honest. Then I explaid that life and consequences are somewhat different today then they were in the '70's. That smoking pot like drinking should only be considered when a person is mature enough, and that is the reason for a legal age on drinking. I also pointed out that there is a huge difference in some one who smokes pot and someone who becomes a head. Just as there is a difference between someone who drinks and an alcoholic. The boys are now in their late 20's and neither drinks or smokes except on an occasion socially. I believe that when it comes to talking with my kids honesty was always best, but each child is different, and everyone deals with their children differently. The decision to tell is solely up to the parent involved. No matter how right a decision seems at the time, it may later seem as though one should have opted for the other choice. What ever it is that a parent decides to tell or not to tell, it needs to be made clear that they will always love their child no matter the choices made by the child.

When the subject came up with my boys, I was honest. Then I explaid that life and consequences are somewhat different today then they were in the '70's. That smoking pot like drinking should only be considered when a person is mature enough, and that is the reason for a legal age on drinking. I also pointed out that there is a huge difference in some one who smokes pot and someone who becomes a head. Just as there is a difference between someone who drinks and an alcoholic. The boys are now in their late 20's and neither drinks or smokes except on an occasion socially. I believe that when it comes to talking with my kids honesty was always best, but each child is different, and everyone deals with their children differently. The decision to tell is solely up to the parent involved. No matter how right a decision seems at the time, it may later seem as though one should have opted for the other choice. What ever it is that a parent decides to tell or not to tell, it needs to be made clear that they will always love their child no matter the choices made by the child.