(Posted 477 days ago)

Do's and Don'ts:

Try to approach this problem with a clean slate and give him a chance to step up. Don't assume he doesn't want to help -- he might know how to jump in.

Say This:

I want to talk to you about mom and dad. I know the situation with them is overwhelming and we're all dealing with it differently. But we really need to work together on a plan for how we're going to take care of the medical bills and how much time each of us can pitch in to help them.

I know you and I don't always see eye to eye on these things but this is one time where we need to get past those things and concentrate on doing our best for mom and dad. This is hard for all of us, but I want to to be able to count on you... and I want you to be able to count on me. Maybe as a first step we can make an appointment with a care manager and we can go together to find out what we need to do next.