looking for advice

Posted: Sep 3, 07 8:48am

ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 3YEARS. LAST YEAR WE HAD A BIG argument BECAUSE HE WAS accusing ME OF BEING AT A BAR TELLING PEOPLE THAT I WASNT MARRIED AND THAT WAS NOT TRUE. SO WE ENDED UP separating FOR 4 MONTHS. WE FINALLY GOT BACK TOGETHER. ONE NIGHT WE WAS WATCHING TV AND HIS CELL PHONE HAD RUNG AND IT WAS THIS GIRL ASKING TO SPEAK TO HIM. I TOLD HER THAT THIS IS HIS WIFE AND PLEASE DO NOT CALL THIS NUMBER AGAIN. SHE STARTED YELLING AND SAYING THAT HE TOLD ME THAT YOU AND HIM WAS NOT TOGETHER AND IT WAS OVER BETWEEN YOU TOO. I TOLD HER THAT I AM HIS WIFE AND THAT IS NOT GOING TO NEVER CHANGE. SHE STARTED TALKING SOME STUFF ABOUT SHE GAVE HIM SOME MONEY FOR A CAR AND SHE WANTS HER MONEY BACK, SO MY HUSBAND GRABS THE PHONE AND HE starts SAYING I AM NOT GIVING YOU ANYTHING BACK AND STOP CALLING MY PHONE. WE DIDNT HEAR FROM HER UNTIL ABOUT 3 WEEKS LATER AND THEN SHE STARTED CALLING MY PHONE, HE CLAIMS THAT SHE MUST OF GOT MY NUMBER OUT OF HER CELL PHONE WHEN THEY WHERE MESSING AROUND. SO SHE CALLED ME AND WAS SAYING HE TOOK MY MONEY AND I WANT IT BACK, SHE WAS ASKING LIKE A CRAZY WOMEN. SHE ASKED ME WHY WOULD I WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE HIM. I INSTANLY KNEW RIGHT THERE THAT SHE WAS CRAZY. OKAY LISTEN TO THIS 3 MONTHS AFTER THAT SOME OTHER GIRL IS CALLING ME CURSING ME OUT ON TE PHONE TALKING ABOUT WHY DID I CALL HER HOUSE AND THAT HER FRIEND IS PREGNANT BY MY HUSBAND. IT WAS REALLY FUNNY THAT THIS GIRL NEVER CALLED ME AND SAID THIS TO ME, SO MONTHS WENT BE AND I THOUGHT nothing OF IT. COME TO FIND OUT THIS GIRL IS REALLY PREGNANT HAVING A BABY BUT THE QUESTION IS WHO IS THE FATHER? SO I CALLED HER UP MY SELF WHEN I STARTED HEARING ABOUT IT ON THE STREETS, SHE SAID HE IS THE FATHER, I ASKED HER WELL WHY HAVEN YOU TOLD HIM AND SHE SAID I ONT NEED HIM TO DO anything FOR THIS CHILD. I TOLD HER HOW COULD YOU BRING A BABY INTO THE WORLD KNOWING THAT THE FATHER IS MARRIED. I ALSO SAID TO HER THAT I DONT BELIEVE HER AND I AM NOT LEAVING MY HUSBAND FOR HER AND THAT SHE IS A LIARING, SHE STARTED TRYING TO CONVINCE ME THAT ITS HIS BABY AND TELLING ME ALL OF THESE DATES REALLY TRYING TO convince ME, I TOLD HER THAT I DONT BELIEVE HER. 2 MONTHS AFTER THAT my HUSBAND GOT ARRESTED FOR OTHER ISSUES. HE CALLS ME 2 WEEKS AFTER THAT AND SAYS THAT SHE IS TRYING TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAISNT HIM AND TOLD ME TO COME UP TO THE COURT ON TE DATE OF THE HEARING. SO I ARRIVE AT THE COURT RIGHT WHEN I ENTER THE COURT SHE GETS RIGHT UP AND LEAVES OUT OF THE COURT ROOM, I INSTANTLY REMEMBER HER FROM THAT NIGHT I WAS AT THE BAR AND SOMEONE WAS SURPOSELY HAVE TOLD BY HUSBAND THAT LIE AND IT WAS HER. SHE NEVER CAME BACK IN THE COURT HE LEFT RIGHT AWAY. IT GETS EVEN better MY HUSBAND HAS A 10 YR OLD THAT IS HIS SON. HIS SON'S MOTHER DOESNT LIKE ME AND I DONT LIKE HER BUT WE DEAL WITH EACH OTHER BECAUSE OF THE CHILD. KNOW THIS LADY HATES ME AND MY husband BECAUSE WE ARE MARRIED LIVING A HAPPY LIFE SO SHE THINKS. HER MOTHER IS A police OFFICER AND apparently SOME COURT PAPERS HAD GO MAILED TO HER ADDRESS AND IT WAS CHILD SUPPORT PAPERS. SO TIS LADY IS TRYING TO TRACK ME DOWN JUST TO GIVE ME THESE PAPERS. NOW REMEMBER SHE CANT STAND ME. SHE SEES ME AND ASKS ME TOO PULL OVER SO I PULL OVER THINKING ITS SOMETHING ABOUT MY HUSBAND SON AND THIS GIRLS HAS PAPERS IN HER CAR THAT SHE HAS BEEN DRIVING AROUND WITH TRYING TO FIND ME TO GIVE THEM TO ME. SO I WAITING untill MY HUSBAND CALLED ME THE NEXT DAY AND WE CALLED CHILD SURPORT AND THERE IS nothing IN THE SYSTEM AT ALL AND THEY SUGGESTED THAT WE FAX THE LETTER TO THEM BECAUSE IF IT WASNT ISSUED FROM THERE THAN THAT FOGERY. BUT I JUST LEFT IT ALONE. ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN arguing EVERY SINCE THEN. I AM JUST SO confused AND DONT KNOW WHO TO BELIEVE.