Clare, aka Jim was absolutely devastated when aka Kim literally threw his belongings out of their condo onto the grass. They'd had one of their classical fights which had become a part of their relationship personality. Not something I go for at all.

But yes, I think that the insight of why the attraction was so strong on his side by some of you are right on. He'd had a very dull and boring life, and had been dominated all of his life by his bitchy mother and then by a similar wife. When he got divorced, it was hard for him to readjust to single life like for most of us. When he met aka Kim, she was just the opposite of anything he'd ever known. He felt very special, I think, that she chose to be with him and he loved having her on his arm. But he ignored everything else that would have spared him a lot of pain. Was it worth it to have 2 1/2 exciting years? I don't know. I never saw him again after the breakup and aka Kim didn't care one way or the other. She was unnecessarily cruel I believe. But that is part of her personality unfortunately.

I felt unattractive, unwanted and like I had missed out on a lot of life, which I had. I felt insecure about myself, my rapidly diminishing youth.

My marriage wasn't bad at that point (we weren't fighting), but it was completely missing intimacy, passion and romance for reasons I now understand. I felt taken for granted, used, (I'm biased though).

When a beautiful woman took an interest in me, I was flattered, saw the opportunity to re-live a missed youth. She thought I was the greatest thing to grace the planet with footsteps. Everything I said was profound and funny, same for her. The intimacy (just talking) was unbelievable. I fell insanely in love with her. it wasn't sexual for a long time, and in fact our only sexual encounter ended it, because it raised all kinds of questions and guilt.

In a way it was beautiful and awoke a part of me that was either asleep or never existed. I still miss her, or at least that feeling of being wholly, unconditionally loved, however fleeting I know that to be,

And yet it was wrong. Very wrong. I violated my wife's trust, a promise I had made to her 21 years prior and which she trusted me to honour.

hi, i'm in some what of a dilemma, my partner and i broke up 5 months ago but our living and sleeping arrangements didnt change, and i thought we were working towards puting our relationship back together and things were really starting to get back on track ( the intimacy had returned and the thoughtfulness ) but this week i had found out that she cheated on me when away for business with a friend who was counseling her, i feel so betrayed, but i decided that i want my relationship to work, am i a fool? she says she loves me and that when she slept with her friend we were not in a "relationship" is this just a copout. i love my partner dearly but she still says we are not in a relationship yet that we are working towards a commitment, we see a councilor in 2 weeks, she is having a midlife crisis(turned 40 one mth ago) and is suffering burnout, so yet again am i a fool for standing beside my partner and riding out the storm. please help