The Challenges of Being Single!

Okay.....I'm new to this group so Hi to all!

Here is my 2 cents......

I've always felt like I would be more interesting to men if I were divorced than never married. At least if I were married once, it would mean that someone wanted to spend their life with me at one time!! When you've never been married it appears that something is wrong with you and thus no one has ever wanted to marry you.

It's all silliness in the end......I don't judge men based on whether they have been married before or not but I definitely feel that I have been unfairly judged that way before.

Dana i agree with you 100% in fact you have beat me to the... comment. I too would hesitate to consider a potential "mate" in a man that didn't have any children. Having kids is the most defining point not only in life but in a relationship in your life. I'm not saying that people that don't have children do not have a defining point in their life, just different ones. Commitment to a child forge you in a way that priorities change drastically and i would prefer finding someone who has lived through these changes so we both understand priorities of one another. Age is also a factor. To be on the same page. This of course is what i would prefer but then again love strikes in mysterious ways :)

Hey aicwebmaster;

That is until you've had her and then she is just a whore.

I don't know Chelsea why you haven't been grabbed (pardon the expression) by a nice guy yet. I don't have a problem with a woman who is divorced, its the "kids" thing that sometimes pushes me away, especially if they are still around the house. I don't have any but want my own, not someone elses. I find it hard to meet people my own age too that want to go out on a date. The bar scene caters mostly to women in their 20's so that's out. I guess we just keep plugging away.

If you have never been married---they wonder why? If you have been married then divorced--they label you as damaged goods! sfco@ptd.net

The other downer is being a widow over 60. a lot of the 55+ men all want a female half their age. Don't need a 30 y.o. either, I don't want to teach. Few men over 60 could keep up with me. As soon as the guy finds out that I still listen to Pink Floyd,Led Zeppelin and go to concerts they tink I'm out of my mind anyway.

oh I or should I say ouch.