Online Dating

There is a song that says everybody plays the fool sometimes, and i will tell you that is so true, i have guys tell me about how women treated them and they end treating me not great, (not calling, using whatever) but i don't see it coming because like a dummy i feel that if you are treated like that you would not do it to others. and admittedly i probably flaked out on people, but some of the guys i flaked out on - it is probably good i did.

Update: The gal that cancelled our date when I told her I might be late messaged me last night - over a week later. She said "I don't know what to say"...

Neither do I.

Hi Hip, I have been fortunate enough to meet some wonderful people through the internet. Some I have met in person, others I haven't had the opportunity to meet yet because geography has not allowed.

I find the big mistakes I have made (yes, I have) are when I have rushed things. It takes a lot longer to get to know someone through an online resource, and if you don't expand to substantial phone time before you meet then you are just asking for trouble. People are completely different in email than they are in IM. And the differences go even further once the phone is introduced. I also think that a phone conversation is very different than a webcam conversation (and I am not talking the erotic kind).

Slow down, take your time, talk about lots of different things and you will find someone wonderful. (And no, I don't believe in the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy.)

The best site I have found is Yahoo Personals and I did not pay the fee.

I met 2 men close to me but in person we did not have chemistry.

I met one man and found common interests but he lived out of state and the distance finally did get us.

One person I really liked turned out to be a scammer looking for money. These people usually "troll" the free sites, post pictures of models, want to IM quickly and write things that could be greeting cards. They live in Nigeria!

I would keep casting my "net" and see what happens. Some of my friends have dated and married people they met on the internet.

Women are usually more cautious and afraid of meeting a man in person. (the ax murderer fear) So make sure you talk on the phone, your name shows up on caller ID and this will give her peace of mind. Always meet someplace public and tell her it is okay if she brings a friend with her. (she will trust you more) I did bring my best friend with me to meet these people. When I found I felt safe she went to do something else.

This reminds me of a website that shows one guys dealings w/ Nigerian scammers. He set out to see how far he could 'play' with them.

He made it as far as shipping them boxes of old phone books and a broken stove (I think) freight C.O.D.!!

Dang, Jim, I already left the midwest. Where were you 4 years ago when I was just on the other side of that pond that lays between WI & MI? You mean chivalry is still alive?

Be careful with yahoo personals. I seem to find just as many scammers there as I do on most free sites. Many years ago, the scammers hadn' found the free dating sites. Both of my sons, met their wives thru dating sites. Unfortunately, both of my sons are no longer married. I sorta think their wives went back to the dating sites and found someone else. So, dating sites are still no guarentees in life that you will find the right person.