Don't stifle that urge to organize. Most lonely people wait for somebody else to invite them somewhere.

I love my time alone, but I require friends too. I moved to this small town 2 years ago and have made a few women friends met at a businesswoman's networking group, my health club, a real estate open house, a women's tea. You've got to open a lot of oysters to find a pearl.

I've recommended this group a kabillion times because it's working out so well for me - go to meetup.com and see what's going on in your area. It's not a dating site, but a place for people with similar interests to find each other and do stuff. And if you have the urge to organize events, you are EXACTLY the kind of person to run Meetup events.

I've met with the knitting group here, and hosted an event for the outdoors group, where we tuned up bicycles - so now I know how to change a bicycle tire. I've also been out with a group that likes to check out local restaurants. It's a great way to expand the social circle.

i enjoy my time alone and i find that when i get too much stimulation from the outside, with people all around and noise, i get extremely irritable and want to be left alone. this is the only way to describe it and it sounds kinda neurotic???? i remember as a kid, when i played outside too much or was around people too much or even coming in from school, i would go and be by myself in my room. i was always forced to leave my room but i cannot explain this.

Some people can't stand to be alone (and often make poor relationship choices as a result). Others are homebodies who feel find spending time alone. But even most homebodies are not hermits. Almost all of us have a personal preference for a certain amount of time with others and a certain amount solo. It's worthwhile to think about your own personal mix, and then try to arrange your social life to spend the time you need alone, while making time to be sociable--and being proactive about filling your social time.

Renee; I was very content to spend time alone after I left the military where I HAD to live with others in close quarters. Then I got divorced, partially because my ex wasn't use to me being home so much...

I tried getting close to my family after being gone for 20 yrs, but found them to be self-centered so I've chosen to not waste my time with them.

I've been alone for 10 yrs now. It's getting old. You are right that there are things better done with a companion.