Posted: Feb 15, 08 10:18am
Positions where the couple lies down next to each other are great for restful, focused intimacy and connection. The two lovers can be facing each other, one can be lying on top of the other with straight legs or the two can be ‘spooning’. ‘Spooning’ is when the man cups his body around the woman’s from behind. Like two snakes, each person can undulate and move their body in rhythm with the other. When facing each other the two can eye gaze, kiss, and breath together, as if meditating, while making love.
Moving into a spooning position is really useful when a couple is learning ejaculation mastery because you can slow the energy buildup down a bit, relax, and then move into a more active position when the man is ready to build the stimulation and arousal back up. This kind of ‘dancing’ with the sexual energy is Tantric and allows the couple to be in intercourse for longer periods of time. When his hand is placed on her heart chakra area, as he is holding her from behind, the transmission of love energy is particularly powerful and moving. This is also a great position for whispering into ears, nibbling on necks and breathing in your lover’s pheromones from her hair and shoulders!
Men who are very well endowed might find this type of position helpful in getting more friction and the feeling of full penetration, too. A very large penis can hurt a woman and he may not feel as though he is getting enough stimulation because he can’t thrust deeply. A woman’s thighs help to add friction and a feeling of ‘fullness’ to the thrusting in these positions.
