"She asked had I ever looked at life through my mother's eyes"
I think our mothers never meant to intentionally harm our psyches. In my own mother's case, she was doing the best she could at the time, in her situation and her frame of mind.
My mother was always very ill. I always thought it was her passive-aggressive way of controlling us all. Because she was always sick, I have vowed to always be as strong and healthy as I could. I refuse to be sick. I say NO.
Because my parents were not in the slightest bit demonstrative I make an extra effort to tell and show my kids I love them. Because my mother and I were never really close, I make an effort to connect with my children.
The challenge for me has been to deeply connect with her now. I can only go as far as she will let me. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
"She asked had I ever looked at life through my mother's eyes"
I think our mothers never meant to intentionally harm our psyches. In my own mother's case, she was doing the best she could at the time, in her situation and her frame of mind.
My mother was always very ill. I always thought it was her passive-aggressive way of controlling us all. Because she was always sick, I have vowed to always be as strong and healthy as I could. I refuse to be sick. I say NO.
Because my parents were not in the slightest bit demonstrative I make an extra effort to tell and show my kids I love them. Because my mother and I were never really close, I make an effort to connect with my children.
The challenge for me has been to deeply connect with her now. I can only go as far as she will let me. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
.. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
.. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
Thank you so much. It was so difficult to write. But I trust all of you so much in this group I felt I could finally do it.
Your support means more to me than you will ever know. Writing this did make me cry but I feel a release as well. We are all strong independent women for having lived through all we have.
Thank you so much. It was so difficult to write. But I trust all of you so much in this group I felt I could finally do it.
Your support means more to me than you will ever know. Writing this did make me cry but I feel a release as well. We are all strong independent women for having lived through all we have.
deerest Pamela,
Your courage in finally telling the seceret
that yuo have carryied since you wer a child
is stuning.
The healing has begun sweet child,strong
woman.
Yuo are no longer alone,my friend,we are here. love,
suzan
deerest Pamela,
Your courage in finally telling the seceret
that yuo have carryied since you wer a child
is stuning.
The healing has begun sweet child,strong
woman.
Yuo are no longer alone,my friend,we are here. love,
suzan
Posted: Jun 20, 08 6:08pm
"She asked had I ever looked at life through my mother's eyes"
I think our mothers never meant to intentionally harm our psyches. In my own mother's case, she was doing the best she could at the time, in her situation and her frame of mind.
My mother was always very ill. I always thought it was her passive-aggressive way of controlling us all. Because she was always sick, I have vowed to always be as strong and healthy as I could. I refuse to be sick. I say NO.
Because my parents were not in the slightest bit demonstrative I make an extra effort to tell and show my kids I love them. Because my mother and I were never really close, I make an effort to connect with my children.
The challenge for me has been to deeply connect with her now. I can only go as far as she will let me. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
Posted: Jun 20, 08 7:22pm
.. I think that if we were not related, we would not be friends.
My mother did connect well with people outside the family. I used to be jealous of it. Now I admire that quality. She has a lot of good qualities and she continues to do the best she can.
I don't know the point of my rambling here. I hope it helps someone.
It does help someone. Believe me.
Posted: Jun 22, 08 1:16pm
Hi Bella, thanks for your comments, they help me to feel not so alone. Hearing how others have similar experiences is comforting.
Posted: Jul 3, 08 11:42am
Thank you so much. It was so difficult to write. But I trust all of you so much in this group I felt I could finally do it.
Your support means more to me than you will ever know. Writing this did make me cry but I feel a release as well. We are all strong independent women for having lived through all we have.
deerest Pamela,
Your courage in finally telling the seceret
that yuo have carryied since you wer a child
is stuning.
The healing has begun sweet child,strong
woman.
Yuo are no longer alone,my friend,we are here. love,
suzan