Hi Writer........I started a thread here back in October.....my situation similar to yours except my hubby does not treat me bad, treats me good as a matter of fact. Which leads to me feeling very shallow. We have had not a sexual encounter of any kind for one year now.....yes, I feel lonely but not alone, for there are TBD folks just like you and me.

I have long considered an affair....I miss the feel of a mans hands on me, being inside me, his lips on mine.........that whole scent of a man.

I used to think it was me, something wrong with me....I've tried talking to him....used humor....everything......I'm now stopped trying....no talking about it, I no longer initiate, no touching, no nothing. I stopped because I got tired of feeling guilty for making him feel bad about not wanting me....so I let him off the hook.

I deal with all this with what I call my "diversions" or "distractions", a lot of which comes from TBD and my friends here. Of course I'd much rather have the real thing.

I stay for many reasons.....financial, security, history, the kids, the tug of the familiar. But who knows, once the kids leave the nest, will there be a reason to stay??

Only time will tell....

And hey, I see you're a daughter of the South too!! I'm a little farther down.....Mobile

ROLL TIDE ROLL!

Amen Melly. As I've said many times, there are some that have it worse than others. Different degrees of frustration and situational conditions.

Writer...you will find commiseration here, but you may also find solace and understanding. Perhaps to make a better go of a less than ideal situation.

Oh I am definitely leaving once my nest is empty...and headed to the coast...maybe Melly and I will meet for lunch one day!

Like Melly, I have other distractions, i.e. people, school, work, hobbies, etc. Somedays, though, I just look at my husband (who would rather eat, or sleep, or play video games instead of having sex) and I think, "How dare you?" I guess this is one of those days...LOL

Any time Writer........my door is open.....

I'm sorry for your pain. My situation is reversed. I know that's very frustrating. But i would be very afraid to get myself involved with someone else. find some other way to releve your stressed life.

Diversions work. But sometimes they don't work well enough.

My wife stays away alot right now. She has family in another town about a 45 minute drive from here. She'll be gone days at a time. I become a single father then.

I actually prefer it sometimes to being with someone who used to be a lover, but is now more like a "roommate".

I'm a few years older then her, but I feel like I'm married to an old woman.

I'm home alone right now,just me and the dogs.

This place is a good place to go to find compassionate souls. Sharing your feelings helps you get a grip on them.