Emotional Cowardice! Yes, I like that term. It rings true.

Omgosh sounds like my life with my ex!! wow..

Well as I learned, the hard way..the only reason they want us to stay is to be in control..you seee.if it doesnt work with the other one..we are there..they just use us as a backup ..u get my point? Hey I was in your shoes for 16 years, and I finally moved out , the best thing I could of ever did. Your boyfreind yess SAYS he loves you, like my ex said but..its not love , to be cheated on? to be disrespected? to have their cake and eat it too?? lies after lies, Thats not love..

Turn the table around..if you were to do that to him omg hell would break loose!!!

When you were talking about how 1 day he wants you to move and when he sees you actually will move, then he changed his mind! omg just like my ex!! grrrr get the hell outta there!!! he knows how to play with your emotions and he knows how weak you are when hes all sweet to you .You know what kind of man that is?? A MANIPULATER!!!! pisses me off lol sorry but gosh!!

You are being played and you are being taken advantage of BIG TIME.I see similarities with what i am going through right now that your have.

Once a person in a relationship goes out and has an affair with someone else the trust... either you want to believe it or not is gone.How can you believe what he is telling you is what he means or especially feels?

My ex has allot of medical problems that we had been enduring throu our relationship. breast cancer Heart,knee,neck,etc...you would not believe.

You have to get yourself better and as I am trying to Move on in a big way.

My thoughts and feelings are that with me that if she wants it over then its over.I am learning and will continue to learn about myself her and the releationship we had. I will overcome this as you need to confvince yourself...As I am trying ,you may need just to get yourself better move on without him and be a better person than he is.

She was even off of work for more than two years.

This is so what happened to me, he has the other woman now, but still sees me, been 9 months, we were together almost 7 years too, i asked him to move out, he loves me, but he loves her too, what does that tell you, men are players, mine cries so easily when he wants, he is not happy, but still wants to see me once or twice a week, i have been suicidal etc, over this guy, whom I still love, but finally i see him for what he is, a very weak, untrue man, who will always be this way, once they are like that, it stays, i will still see him when he wants, until i am called elsewhere or in love again, but he is unfaithful to me, to her and to his exwife, (although he was single when i met him, i had no idea he was so damaged), so we get what we have, a man who can not keep it zipped and who does not deserve us, but i am not mooning over him anymore, i can see clearly what he is and you should see yours too without the rose colored glasses, it hurts, but boy am i tried of hearing "cake and eat it too" from my family and his, because his family loved me a lot, they are not even communicating with him, that should tell me something too, i think you should at least move out and if he wants to date you, then do it on neutral ground, not the homefront that you share. best to you

From experience don't walk........run......Once it's gone it's gone......He got a taste of something else and liked it.... obviously..........Go make yourself happy. No more drama. It only makes YOU sick in the end.

Good luck