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So that is what it is called - "boomerang kids." I just picked up a book called Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children. I am at my wit's end most days with my 20-year-old son. He just finished a technical school for welding - only a 7 month course. They can place him at a job and he says right now he is "burned out." What?! He is working for a tree service company, but is only making half of what he could be making if he were doing what he went to school for. He does not seem real motivated to do much more at this point. And I feel like he is just using my house as a half way point, stopping in only to take a shower and change clothes, spending most of his time at his buddy's place. He has an attitude when I try to talk to him about letting me help him with his finances so he can one day (soon) move out or get a better job, straighten up his room, etc. He most times says I am meddling, but most times I feel like he is taking advantage of. I really need some good advise on how to handle the situation. I am ready to tell him "there's the door, don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you." I love him, but I see him not making decent choices right now and don't know what I can do to help, if anything at all.

So that is what it is called - "boomerang kids." I just picked up a book called Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children. I am at my wit's end most days with my 20-year-old son. He just finished a technical school for welding - only a 7 month course. They can place him at a job and he says right now he is "burned out." What?! He is working for a tree service company, but is only making half of what he could be making if he were doing what he went to school for. He does not seem real motivated to do much more at this point. And I feel like he is just using my house as a half way point, stopping in only to take a shower and change clothes, spending most of his time at his buddy's place. He has an attitude when I try to talk to him about letting me help him with his finances so he can one day (soon) move out or get a better job, straighten up his room, etc. He most times says I am meddling, but most times I feel like he is taking advantage of. I really need some good advise on how to handle the situation. I am ready to tell him "there's the door, don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you." I love him, but I see him not making decent choices right now and don't know what I can do to help, if anything at all.

My kids are only 10 and 12 but we are preparing them to do the same.