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Dear Stephanie, Group Administrator,

Would you like to change your 'image' on TBD because I think it is the same as mine, with all of that sunset etc. I noticed your group on the HOme Page as Featured Group and thought it was mine and only to find it was yours. It is also quite relevant to my work as a Life Transitions Coach, so I would be happy to respond to the postings. My groups are: Baby Boomers, Life Transitions, Potential and Possibilities...If you go to my profile you will see. Talk to you all.

www.sapiencecoaching.com

Hi Nhyrvana,

Let me treat this as a mini-coaching moment, being viewed by the public and not a quiet chat on the phone.

I would imagine that when you say "start over' there is a lot hidden in that, so I would have to explore with you, what those matters are. If you are running away from something as opposed to having a specific goal or specific goals you want to pursue, then that will determine the direction in which our discussion would go.

Next, Nhyrvana, since the work-world is so difficult these days, I would not suggest to anyone to just pack up and go and not be sure how they will survive financially.

If you are luck y enough to have a safe place, and SAFE is the operative word, to stay for months, that might either be good or bad...Bad if that will lull you into not being as pro-active as you might be if you had to find a job and a place etc. immediately, and good, if it allows you to unwind and learn the ropes to "start over". I would love to talk with you further, if you tell me what your intentions are career-wise and what personal issues you want to change. The bottomline is you will only repeat the same scenario if you do not fix what was wrong in the first place. If nothing is wrong and you are just being adventurous, that is another matter. Please don't stop talking. heb@sapiencecoaching.com

Well, I'm looking at the same thing but still I'm looking at what is in the area such as hospital's and doctor's I'm not well and I do not want to just move into my sisters house even though we are close I'm an independent man with real responsibilities and I have to put m doughter frist

Good luck Crushed2008...it's never an easy decision or thing to do but in the end we all make the right decisions as long as we think it through!

Thank you Hyacinth. I'd like to take you up on your offer of discussing this further in email if you are still open to it. (Sorry it took me to long to reply, work has kept me busy and my online time limited over the last week)

-emily

Emily,

I did this a little over a year ago. My daughter and I packed up our stuff, our 2 dogs, and ourselves and moved from TX to MA. something I'd always wanted to do and never had the courage.

I am so glad I did it. I know I'll move back to TX someday, but for now I am having the time of my life.

Oh, and I moved without a job. I just made sure my credit cards were paid off and I had about $5000 in the bank. We had a friend we could stay with and I just hit the streets and had a job in no time. But I came with the attitude that if I didn't find anything right away, I would just work temp until I did.

I hope this helps.

I am still waiting to hear from you, Nhyrvana, how have you fared since August 13? Do get in touch. Hyacinth.