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All any of us can do , is the best we can. Just be sure to take care of yourselves. Because if you break down. Who will care for the parents? You NEED someone to relieve you at least once a week. You need to have some quiet time, and time with your family. Mom or Dad will survive a caretaker. DO NOT give up all the joy now in your life. Invite friends in , if you can not go out. But keep caring and positive people around you. I found they helped my sanity a lot. Good luck to you. Fresh air and sunshine do wonders for our mood! I am praying for you all.

My mom is in a nursing home, but medicaid will only pay for 6 months. In Oct, I have to bring her home. She has alzheimers but is otherwise very healthy. She has lived with me for 3 years up to this point. I'm sorry, but I do not want to bring her home. I live with locked doors, hidden pictures and knick-knacks, constant cleaning of her bedroom,....I love her, but my kids are grown, and I now want a life of my own.

PURPLE DAWN....It is very hard taking care of an alzheimers patient. You sound exhausted. There are programs out there that will help you. Call a crises line or a councilor that can put you in contact with the right people. Do you have siblings that can help? Or maybe children? If you truly can not care for her properly, and with love, and safety. Sign her over to the state , or someone that can care for her properly. She needs good, loving , safe, care! You must do what is right ,and safe for her. She can not help her self!!!!! Sometimes life requires us to do things we do not want to do. You need to find a way that is best for HER.

it is not anyones duty to make someone else life good. In good conscience one can do what they are able to do and it should be because they want to not because they feel obligated. dont feel guilty about the things you cannot do, only do what you can. you have a life of your own to take care of too. ive been there and got the disherit. a compromise is in order in this tipe of situation.