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The answer is YES - honestly.

There are times when we get fed up with each other, get stressed over our businesses, don't communicate effectively & there are times when we barely touch each other.

But they are just "times" & over 20 years they barely mount to a mole hill in comparison to the good times.

We genuinely like each other & as much as I fantasize at times especially when reading a racy book, I can't imagine being with anyone else in reality.

No I would not,So its a good thing we do not know our future path.Been togather almost 30 years and if I had known what was to come I would have run the other way.Lol

There are two things that the sages say we should not know:

1) our future

2) the stuff they put in sausages

it's better just to enjoy each without knowing

I agree marriage can be a wonderful thing, my husband cooks, clean do laundry, amd I'm blessed to have someone like that, every one have faults, if you are unsure about a situation, get a piece of paper, write down the good on one side the bad on the other, be honest with yourself, if the good out weights the bad, you are in good shape.

Absolutely, YES! We have been married 15 years and love each other very much. I very nearly died last year after the birth of our child. It really makes you think about what is important to you. I can't imagine my life without him.

I would say no because after 20 years we're more like roommates than husband and wife. The intimacy is gone. I still need/crave romance, passion, togetherness, she doesn't. We rarely touch or kiss. It makes me very sad.

andyhunn, i am at the other end of this comment...I am and have been the wife for 20 years and just got told I don't initiate sex enough. And now that the kids are grown we don't do anything. Well, here's the deal...we didn't do anything because he can't go anywhere because of his agoraphobia and I have had a hysterectomy which has lowered my sex drive a little. He found it better to discuss it with somone he met on this website than me. nice...huh? So we are now in the midst of a separation. We did kiss and touch alot though...well I know I did.