The Challenges of Being Single!

Not to be totally negative about folks in general, but internet dating scares the hell out of me. People lie. They lie about who they are, where they've been, and what they want. Its hard enough in life to figure out what is real when it is someone you "know" from face to face encounters, but the dating sites give people of both sexes a way to be someone they want to be instead of who they are. I'll just have to wait until Prince Charming or one of his brothers comes waltzing into my life.

This blog has given me an idea for my radio show. I am wondering if any of you would be willing to talk about Internet dating on the air on my morning radio show. It would be private as I will give you a fake name and it is only local here in upstate NY with a 50 mile radious signal. Trust me.. you will not know a soul up here and besides.. you have a fake name. You can listen online if you wanted to.

Let me know and I will send you the telephone number. You can call the station which means I will not have your phone number giving you more security. We have a multi line system that does not support caller ID. Besides.. I will be giving you the station info where you can read everything there is to know about the station, location etc. I dont mind giving that information out.

Let me know. It's a great topic and my listeners would love it. We could have a ball doing this.

My show consists of many callers with fake names such as Bobby BonVoyage. Mary Canajoharie, Wonda Woolite, The Bear and Mike Ziti.

They have all become regular callers because of the fun.

Joe

Deb<--hasn't had a date since 1979 but I'm enjoying the stories.

My very first Match.com date, after my divorce, was with a gal at a local Starbucks.

As we sat sipping our (very hot) coffee, I kept hearing sounds like ripping fabric.

Then, I noticed this strange odor permeating the air around me.

Then, I figured it out ~ she was farting!

It took 42 minutes to get through my coffee and she sat there and ripped them the whole time.

Then, we got up, she shook my hand and said "thanks for the coffee, sir!", and we parted.

I walked out to the parking LMAO, wondering if perhaps I should have just stayed married.

(true story)

Some of these stories are funny and some are scary I wonder what these people are thinking when they go out on a date.

I had a scary one years ago when I went on an internet dating site. After speaking a bit on the internet and finally calling him on the phone I agreed to meet him in a public restaurant during the day. When I arrived he was already there and seemed very pleasant. We spoke throughout lunch and all seemed fine. Then he asked if I wanted to catch a movie at a nearby cinema. I told him that would be great. He wanted us both to travel in his car but I told him that I would follow him in mine instead.

When we arrived at the parking lot of the cinema he started to change. By time the movie started he began laying his head on my shoulder telling me I was the one and talking about our future. That I was the one he had always looked for and I would be in his life. This was a first date and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him I was watching the movie and watched intently. If you ever have saw a Lord of the Rings movie they are at least three hours long. He continued to cuddle closer and closer almost to be sitting on top of me. I gently pushed him away and told him it was not comfortable. From there he continued on how I was the only one for him and talked about future children and families. The movie was still ongoing and I was thinking something is so wrong here.

When the movie finally came to an end the parking lot was not very crowded and it was beginning to get dark. We returned to our cars where he asked me right there to marry him. I tried to explain that love takes time and marriage is such an important step to take. He became furious with me and said I set him up. That I never really loved him but used him. I told him that I never said I loved him and how could I since this was our first real date. He then became angrier saying I needed to prove my feelings for him were real and that I hadn't used him. He wanted a personal item from me. I was looking around for help as he mentioned he wanted an undergarment and I could use his car to remove it. I was sickened immediately at the thought of what kind of person this was. Glancing in the back of his car as it was next to mine I could see blankets and a pillow and I felt instant fear.

Just then a group of teenagers came walking by. I seized the opportunity when one of them asked me if I had a cigarette as I was smoking one. I quickly made them walk around to my car door and told them I had just smoked my last one and had to get one from my car. As I got inside my car I handed the teen the cigarette while starting my engine.

I opened my passenger side window and could see the anger and rage on this guy's face. I told him I had to leave and was sorry but I had to be somewhere.

I took the longest route home I knew. Driving here and there all over afraid that he would find out where I lived. When we had talked on the phone before I never gave him my last name, phone number or address. I blocked his email when I came home that night and never heard from him again.

This is where I learned a valuable lesson that no matter how much you may think you know a person from the internet you really don't until you meet them. Use caution and be careful even in a public parking lot. I always thought what if those teenagers had not come by at just that time what would he have done. We were parked on a back parking lot away from other cars which I realize now was definately not a good place to park.