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From the original post:
2008-10-06 14:51:11.0
My wife and I have discussed quite a few things in regard to married life. When we first got together, we...
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Posted: Oct 7, 08 8:28am
However, in today's times more than evver, I believe in monogamy too. If it is a committed relationship, monogomy is the way to go.
Monogamy is fine as long as both parties agree. But when one of those people change their mind, being honest is the way to go. For myself, I think monogamy is a very selfish thing to desire. If I care about someone, I don't want to hinder their experiences. I don't want them to go without something they desire because of me. The only promise I want made to me is to be honest with me.
Posted: Oct 7, 08 8:53am
i stand by my opinion....
sexual infidelity is important - but to know that my man confided in another woman and felt vunberable and open and they shared something on an emotional level would kill me. That's just me - we all have our insecurities and mine are not based in the bedroom !!
Posted: Oct 7, 08 9:46am
Monogamy is fine as long as both parties agree. But when one of those people change their mind, being honest is the way to go. For myself, I think monogamy is a very selfish thing to desire. If I care about someone, I don't want to hinder their experiences. I don't want them to go without something they desire because of me. The only promise I want made to me is to be honest with me.
I believe we are on the same page. I was just assuming that both parties had agreed. When you are agreeing that the relationship has reached a point that you want it to be "exclusive", you each have decided that person is the only one you want, monogomy. If that changes, for either person, you must be honest with them. To me, that's the only way it can work. Less than that would be a "friend with privileges", as already discussed in another post.
Just my opinion...
Posted: Oct 7, 08 10:21am
Monogamy is fine as long as both parties agree. But when one of those people change their mind, being honest is the way to go. For myself, I think monogamy is a very selfish thing to desire. If I care about someone, I don't want to hinder their experiences. I don't want them to go without something they desire because of me. The only promise I want made to me is to be honest with me.
0_0 Wow!
Guys must be lining up at your door as we speak . . . LOL!
Seriously, that's very open-minded of you. Is this theory or are you practicing this?
Posted: Oct 7, 08 11:05am
No guys lining up at my door! Honestly...I don't date much and am not looking for a serious relationship...so, I guess it theory but will be practice if and when I become involved.
Posted: Oct 9, 08 9:34pm
BE CAREFUL FOR WHAT YU WISH FOR. I FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH THE SCUM OF THE EARTH. I TPLD HIS THAT IT WOULD BE EASIER IF HE HAD A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. A FEW DAYS LATER I FOUND A CELLPHONE IN HIS CAR. THE TEXT MESSAGE READ: IM CALL ME IN THE MORNING. I LOVE YOU. HE HAS BEEN SEEING HER FOR 2 YEARS. I SUDDENLY FOR ABOUT BLOW JOB BETTY(THAT IS THE NAME THAT I GAVE HER.) THE OTHER ONE IS CUNTRY BUMPKIN. THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE. I KEPT A JOURNAL FOR 6 MONTHS. DRAWINGS INCLUDED. I DROVE 6 HOURS AND HAND DELIVERED IT TO HER. I WANTED TO GIVE IT TO HER HUSBAND, BUT I KNOW NOW THAT I WANTED TO SEE HER.
Posted: Oct 10, 08 1:19am
Neither is acceptable or forgivable to me. And I'm a total hard-ass about that being a line in the sand.
Jolene5's post above says it all: the pain is unbearable. Who wants to inflict that on another human being, let alone the one you claim to build your world around?