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Rose thank you. Isn't it sad that so many elderly are cast aside instead of cherished for their wisdom and all their years of hard work.

yes it is. I lost my mother when I was 15, and I wish everyday that she were still here. I do have my dad and I'm lucky for that. He's 77 and I do everything I can for him. My younger brothers don't feel inclined to help him at all so I know he's very happy that I'm here with him. I love listening to all the stories he shares with me from years ago. He could write a book.

You have gotten good advice about making sure she feels like part of the decision making, but also know how impportant it is to make a move that puts her in close proximity with a family member. People prey on the elderly, take advantage of their age, lessened ability to recognize a scam, etc.

Also, lives can change in the blink of an eye (I've seen it happen), and you want to be within a short drive's distance at the most.

When discussing these things with her, it is important that you find a way to approach these topics without seeming fatalistic, simply realistic. She will probably resist, and may not even need that much intervention yet.

Nevertheless, we must always hope for the best while planning for the worst. I'm sure the family can come up with a workable solution together.

Thanks Monkeyboy, that is a concern of mine. She has pretty good neighbors, but they're not family. I really do wish she were closer so I could keep an eye on her.