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From the original post:
2008-10-10 11:16:52.0
...lesson today...
Don't write your thougths down...especially when they're derogatory and about someone...
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Posted: Oct 10, 08 1:35pm
If there is a bright side to this situation, it might be that you will be able to discuss something painful with your friend that you never would have otherwise addressed. While it is very painful to have pressed the wrong button, consider it an opportunity to rise above a stuck place.
Also bring up that this was your venting technique and was not intended to be sent. I like the idea of telling your friend what happened before he finds it on his own.
I know in my heart he found it already, because I hear from him every single morning and I didn't hear from him today and he hasn't responded to my attempts to contact him :(
As verbal as I always am...I am literally at a loss for words...
:(
Posted: Oct 10, 08 1:38pm
True friends WILL understand Kim. Dont beat yourself up just hold you head up and face it.
Im sure he will see it for what it was and forgive.
All things happen for a reason.
Be well,
Pat
I know Pat, *tear* *tear* I just hurt someone I deeply care about and he's been hurt so much in his life that I feel horrible. I NEVER meant to hurt him, and I know he won't understand. I'm so sad. *tear* *tear* **CROCODILE TEARS**
Posted: Oct 10, 08 1:38pm
okay now...breath...
You could be making a mountain out of a mole hlll...Sounds like your jumping to a lot of conclusions and assumptions, young lady.
Theres nothing you can do to controll how he feels or what he does. The ONLY thinkg you can do is to talk to him calmly and explain the situation to him and let him know you were just venting and its done.
Your not responsible for how he processes it.
Dont be assuming this is the end of the world for him. You dont KNOW.
Take a deep breath....settle down some.....and deal with it...
Be well,
Pat
Posted: Oct 10, 08 2:58pm
okay now...breath...
You could be making a mountain out of a mole hlll...Sounds like your jumping to a lot of conclusions and assumptions, young lady.
Theres nothing you can do to controll how he feels or what he does. The ONLY thinkg you can do is to talk to him calmly and explain the situation to him and let him know you were just venting and its done.
Your not responsible for how he processes it.
Dont be assuming this is the end of the world for him. You dont KNOW.
Take a deep breath....settle down some.....and deal with it...
Be well,
Pat
Thank you Pat...I do tend to get a little (okay, okay a lot) emotional when I think I've inadvertantly hurt someone I care about. You're right, I'm not responsible for how he processes it, I just wish he didn't have to process it. Makes me not want to write things down anymore...I know I need to process my feelings...it's what keeps me sane LOL I just need to find a "secure" way to do it so that others don't get hurt. Ya, know?
Again, thank you for pushing me back to reality...
:)
Posted: Oct 10, 08 3:12pm
Glad I could help lady...
Be well,
Pat
Posted: Oct 10, 08 10:15pm
...lesson today... Any ideas on how to fix my "foot in my mouth". I really love this person, but he has been so hurt by the past women in his life, I know he'll be devistated when he reads it, regardless of how much I apologize...
CaIrish, Could I suggest the possibility of attatching at least your opening question and possibly the entire thread as an eloquent apology, in an email to him?
Posted: Oct 11, 08 8:14pm
Really can't take back what has already been done. Need to move on from here. Highsider had a good suggestion .... send a sincere apology, be honest, just say you were hurt and needed to vent .... what you wrote was meant to be private and not seen by anyone.... it was sent by mistake. If your friend accepts the apology, wonderful; if not, maybe it's for the better. As we all say, "things happen for a reason".
I've done what you did, but in the work environment. Someone gave me an excellent suggestion: don't say or write anything about another person that you wouldn't say to their face. Very wise. It works!! Now if I need to vent, I'll go for a long walk (maybe after fluffing some pillows first).