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This is why all the ladies love you Pat!

and then there are the men you've known for 25 years, married to for 20 years who forget what integrity is. They're the ones who suddenly tell you they've been in love with someone else for the last 12 years and are leaving you (happened to my friend earlier this year), or are only interested in new places to hide their empty bourbon bottles, not because they care that you're not thrilled they're drinking heavily, but so you won't NAG them that you found the bottles under the front seat in their car (my situation).

You can do your homework up front, but you must always be a little bit vigilant over time.

**heehee** Okay, so I meet this guy on a game site, we kick it up while playing cards with sarcastic dark humour. Couple more games, then I get a message that stuff happened and he needs a friend.

He tells me his phone number and suggests that I call him from a pay phone collect. That way I can stay safe. Tells me that he'd tell his sister the same thing - women should never be too careful.

Me, I dial direct. He is surprised, tells me to hang up and phones me back. After many more phone calls we decide its time to meet.

He sends me all his info - his job, his home number, his cell number, his sister's ph number and asks if I need more. LOL! I phone his workplace, he is real. I joke that I can do a criminal record check and he offers to pay for it.

What cracked my mum up was that the focus was on ensuring he was safe. She said "what about him, maybe you are the insane one." LOL!!

I was but that's a whole other story. LOL!

Other guys I met, they hid their lives. He didn't. He was an open book.

Bottom line, I approach online friendships and potential relationships the same way I do in real life - take time to get to know the person, figure out if stories line up and then go with the gut.

Just thought I'd share my experiences. :)

Heartaday, I was born being the cog in the wheel, the square peg when all others are round, the wrong size, the wrong place, the wrong time ... and I celebrate my differences. Embrace the differences, not run, you may find that its a very exciting adventure. :)

As for those who are slick and smooth, my take is if someone is too good to be true, chances are that person is. Follow your gut, it often is right. *g*

Oh you poor dear. I feel your pain TOTALLY.

I met my ex online. I wasn't even "looking," but there he was! I tried to fix him up with my girlfriend but that didn't take... So we dated and got serious.

I married him somewhat 'reluctantly' after we had lived together for a year. I knew he had "baggage" (at least he was honest!) and I knew his family, job, etc.

Long story short: It took me Years to find out how really crazy (NUTS, SICK) this man is. This is not a joke or case of "sour grapes." He ended up a psych case and I had two years of trauma before life returned to normal. To say my "trust level" has been demolished forever is putting it lightly!

As others have said go in with your eyes open and use your head. I met someone online a few years back and she wanted me to pick her up at her house.

Well actually at the corner on the street where she lived. I was to call and let it ring twice and then hang up

How many things are wrong here???? LOL

I kinda forgot to go.

Sounds like she was either married or under 16years old...?? Any code like that Id RUN FROM..

Wise choice.

Be well,

Pat