Maybe they're all wrapped up helping others because they don't want to face their own issues?

The Commander's Creed:

"I am third. My unit's mission is first, the welfare of my men is second, and I am and always will be third."

we were raised to do for others. That is what gives our life value. Makes us better people. We just need to learn how to include our own wants and needs.

Thats tru Russ.... but, just thought that if u help urself first it wud make you a better person before helping others. and not always practice what they preach themselves ande still get in a rutt and wonder why later... One can always help others but, also need to do them selves as well instead of leaving it sit on the back burner.. don't ya think? Anyway thats what I think.. Cud, I be wrong with that?

No you're not wrong Mona. Sometimes we have to think of ourselves in order not to allow ourselves to get into a bad situation. It's a two way street. You have to take care of yourself before you can be good for anyone else.

Yea that's fine for the army but not in a woman's personal life.

When we have issues they need to be dealt with.

Another perspective I find interesting is I know a few woman who a serving the Lord, on fire for God, but then marry man who turn out to be total disasters. If they are so tuned into the Lord, what on earth happened?

Most of the trials I see people going thru they usually got them selves into, especially woman I know and their ex's

I don't get it.

A cliche, but true; you can't do a whole lot of good for anyone else if you haven't taken care of yourself.