From the original post: 2007-11-10 11:36:03.0 This thought has come up for me in several places and I'm never sure where to post it. So I will stop... | ADVERTISEMENT  |
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From the original post: 2007-11-10 11:36:03.0 This thought has come up for me in several places and I'm never sure where to post it. So I will stop... | ADVERTISEMENT |
Posted: Oct 3, 08 8:24pm
Do you have any thoughts on the most pragmatic of questions -- when and how you each schedule lovemaking?
Posted: Oct 11, 08 9:57pm
Why not? Why all the resistance? Sexual spontaneity shouldn't be a goal or aspiration in a marriage. No, it shouldn't be spontaneous. For heaven's sakes, we have kids in the house, jobs, workmen roaming around, meter readers... spontaneity? When you're young and don't have diddly to deal with, for sure. But you're supposed to grow up when you are married, you get all those weighty responsibilities and limits to your free time, etc. Sexual spontaneity isn't good, it's just possible, and when it's not, it's not. I think the loss of spontaneity is often outweighed by the enhanced quality of sex with your spouse over time, by the increased appreciation of it given all the family/career stuff you're juggling, and if you're motivated, by the maturing love or romance you might bring to it as time goes by. Such a big decision? "Hey honey, what gives? Let's get a room next month. I'll work late Wednesday to take Thursday morning off. No, let's do it in the kitchen. You game?" What the heck. Spontaneity? What's that old saying... If you put a penny in a jar for every time you have sex in the first year of marriage, and take one out for every time thereafter, you'll never empty the jar. Gotta change that. So schedule away!
Posted: Oct 11, 08 10:16pm
So she says "Nope, today's just not your day... And (looking at her DayRunner) doesn't look too good for the next 9-10 years, either..."
Posted: Oct 17, 08 5:29pm
I think scheduling sex after certain age depends upon the needs of parents and if they become so busy in life affairs will be better and will less problems for what the time is preferable for each other.
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Posted: Oct 18, 08 5:50am
Why not? Why all the resistance? Sexual spontaneity shouldn't be a goal or aspiration in a marriage. No, it shouldn't be spontaneous. For heaven's sakes, we have kids in the house, jobs, workmen roaming around, meter readers... spontaneity? When you're young and don't have diddly to deal with, for sure. But you're supposed to grow up when you are married, you get all those weighty responsibilities and limits to your free time, etc. Sexual spontaneity isn't good, it's just possible, and when it's not, it's not. I think the loss of spontaneity is often outweighed by the enhanced quality of sex with your spouse over time, by the increased appreciation of it given all the family/career stuff you're juggling, and if you're motivated, by the maturing love or romance you might bring to it as time goes by. Such a big decision? "Hey honey, what gives? Let's get a room next month. I'll work late Wednesday to take Thursday morning off. No, let's do it in the kitchen. You game?" What the heck. Spontaneity? What's that old saying... If you put a penny in a jar for every time you have sex in the first year of marriage, and take one out for every time thereafter, you'll never empty the jar. Gotta change that. So schedule away!
I agree. some times just getting all those extra people in your head and house out takes some major work. Right now I have and Aunt and an adult Daughter in the house.
Private time for intimacy some times requires some scheduling.
Posted: Oct 23, 08 9:13am
I am in the same boat with the kid thing and the dog thing we have two boxers and we can't just.....Quote... "kick them out of the bed" give me a break!!!!!
Posted: Oct 23, 08 9:36am
Why schedule anyway ? Just do it when the mood hits ya I always say ! Life is short, have fun !