If you're the primary 'giver' in a relationship, does that deprive the other person of some joy? It depends on the situation if the giver is the one let's say working in the relationship and the other is not the giver is paying the bills and all while the other is keeping house and all the other things to bring harmony to the relationship. Does that deprive the other person of some joy? I would say yes if the bread winner is making it hard for the other to do anything like shop or make home purchases or even go to the grocery store.

Why do some folks find it hard to receive? I guess you can call me one of those people. I'm always the one giving. I never understood this one myself lol, it's just something I feel. I can't explain it maybe I feel I'm not worthy at times to be blessed by other even though I know I am a great person and love all and try to do right by other and those same said others are the ones who try to bless me but it makes me kringe to think of excepting something from someone. I can't explain it.

I think that when we give we are in control and when we receive we allow the other person to be in control. For many of us this is hard - but worth the effort. It is a joyful moment for both parties when we can trust someone else to let them take charge for a bit.

I have a secret theory about why givers may not be good receivers, Honeybee. It think it's our mom's fault.

My mom taught us to think of and serve other first by example and by nagging. It wasn't about being 'less than' or not deserving. It was about showing love and caring. At least, that why I think I'm that way.

We'll see if there are many joyful moments, this weekend, Talia.

My swubby is largely responsible for planning our getaway to Vegas, and I don't mind admitting I'm nervous. (I'll also admit to liking a bit of, eh, control :)

My attitude is that it won't be the trip I would've planned but that will make different opportunities for new fun.

Sounds good, eh?

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And you know what Dina I think I'd have to agee with you on this one. Yes my mom taught us the same thing lol.

I realized, on Valentine's Day, that I was doing all the planning, buying the lingerie, arranging the candles and music, buying the gift for my husband, and it occurred to me that something doesn't seem right about this. He did plan dinner with another couple at the other couple's request. No gift or card for me, but he promised to get something in the next few days. I don't think I always did this, but to be honest, there's no one to blame but me. We had a nice time, but I think that this is the last Feb.14th that I will be the only contributor to...it just didn't feel right.