More Plastic Surgery Op-Ed inspired by Oprah

Amen myagewriter, its time to talk truth. Some people can't handle it, thats their problem. Lets not keep silent for fear of some prediction of judgement.

I've not had work done. I have a giant and deep crease in my forehead, visible in every photo, that I lovingly refer to as my marianas trench. I have thought about taking action, but hate the idea of losing my natural facial expressions, which are so much a part of who I am. And I hate shots. And I was raised to by afraid of botulism. All of which I know is stupid, but its been enough to keep me from action.

I just got off the phone with a dear friend, a natural beauty who looks fabulous at 48, who just told me she had botox and some other treatments I already forgot the names of. She said she looks and feels great, and even her husband, who was against it, is happy that she feels good about the new look.

If I hadnt had this conversation with someone whose experience I really trust, taking action might have stayed an abstaction for me. Her openess to talk about it moves it closer to reality. Maybe I'll actually see someone about it now. Maybe I'll stall some more. But at least I have some real information and real experience to factor into my thinking...its not just for those Nip/Tuck types...its for real people.

So, I'm all for open communication, and letting everyone do what feels right for them. If I do decide to go for it, you can bet you'll all hear about it here on TBD!

That Oprah... I'm not sure I agree with her trying to get Reba to out herself (so to speak). Because while I totally agree that friends should fess up to each other about having plastic surgery, I really don't think celebs should reveal this detail about themselves.

For one thing, it's their job to look good. Many of them have surgery to stay in the business (hello HDTV... I'm talking to you Ellen, looking pretty wrinkly at the Emmys) but I don't think this is a good message to send to women.

And second, if Reba admitted to having work done, she'd forever see "Reba, who had a face lift," next to every accomplishment.

and that's the thing-it's not for all but let's at least start talking...if only to educate so that bad docs are put on alert! this medical discipline needs more spotlighting-it has very little policing because we don't talk honestly. lots of bad jobs out there and i believe our lack of talking could be an enabler

she wouldn't be if we were more open-she's just be another middle age woman who underwent a little nip and tuck.

i think the message is ok-just not for everyone.

I have gotten such amazing feedback from mentioning my (proposed) eyelift in the NY Times article about TeeBeeDee. I have always been transparent (er, wrote a book called Naked in the Boardroom :)) -- but when I was thinking about the eyelift, a dear friend who'd had one advised me to change my hairstyle when out for the surgery so no one would know it was a lift. Of course, I've been bruised now for over a month, so it would have been two haircuts and a very long vacation if I wanted to hide this.

laughing...yeah, we're in the closet about this and my gut tells me we want to come out-it's time. there's enough of us out there interested and we need information. too little is known about the nuts and bolts of this medical specialty-i really think it's time and that's why you are getting the kind of responses that you are getting - hey, i was led here by that NYT piece- i said, any woman who is this 'up front' is worth Googling-and voila! here i am-along with lots of others....

just for the record-i didn't say she was trying to out Reba-i just "wondered"....i don't want oprah mad!...i have no doubt that in no time, her people are going to be checking out this site so she may read this....

hey!, you never know...tbd is an up and comer....