MEN...enuf said...

arlawson67
arlawson67
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Posted: May 29, 08 1:37pm

WHERE are all the "REAL MEN" that are not superficial and arrogant and are willing to give yet be appreciated for who they are NOT for what they have and don't have?? Any suggestions or have I set myself up for failure and a life of loneliness and being FORCED to do things (if I do them) all by my self??? This sinlge life SUX...

HONESTY and a sense of humor. I treat people the way that I want to be treated. I am open and honest and EXPECT that in return. I want to find my "man",one that appreciates being appreciated;picking up his shirt and having his scent put a smile on my face and letting me "feel" his presence, having him lead me by the touch of his hand at the base of my spine,lying in bed with my head on his chest while he carress my hair and face and our breathing becomes as one,taking a canle lit bath or just lying on the couch watching a chick flick or comedy,finding lil notes here and there every so often to put a smile on his face to let him KNOW that he is being thought of and OFTEN!! A great sense of humor:laughter is the best medicine and if you can't laugh at yourself, who can you laugh at?I want "him" to have good morals,think of others.I TRY to do at least one good deed a day; wether it is letting a car out in front of me in traffic or giving my change at McDonalds,it is something that I do that others DON'T need to know about,it is something I do for ME!I want to give 110% of myself and HOPE that "he" will desire to do the same!I am attracted to a mans eyes-they are the windows to a persons soul, then his SMILE.

I was widowed 11 yrs ago and then remarried and after 4 months HE decided to sleep with my "best friend"...I'm not bashing men I just WANST/NEED ONE...with a great BIG heart.

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IsadoraAlman
IsadoraAlman
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Posted: May 29, 08 1:53pm

Your notions of what a love affair should be like are sweet and romantic and shared by many - men as well as women. But you have to realize you can't get there from here without the process of separating the wheat from the chaff, so to speak. Don't bash all men because you've met so many that don't fit your ideal. Many men who may strike you initially as superficial or arrogant may turn into the romantic partner you seek once you get past the initial bluster.

Make sure you're looking in the right places - discussion groups rather than clubs and bars, volunteer work rather than singles' groups. Find ways where you can get to know the man behind the mask and you may be pleasantly surprised.

anthonyfromboston
anthonyfromboston
Founding Member

Posted: May 29, 08 1:54pm

They are everywhere, they just are not always noticed. Because the arrogant and superficial ones tend to get noticed due to their need for attention and act accordingly. Real men have their ego's in check, go about their business and live their lives, they are not preoccupied with seeking attention..But they are out there..Just as i know there are good women out there! Where is the question tho...Being single doesnt suck, you just have to learn to enjoy your own company..It takes time.

Charlie
Charlie
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Posted: May 29, 08 2:02pm

There are a few of us still out there and as Anthony stated, we are overlooked by the one that are noticed by they way they act. There are some who are more attentive to a woman's needs, wants and desires than there own, can treat a woman like a queen without scaring her off. You'll hopefully find that type of guy. He's still out there.

Scarecrow
Scarecrow
Founding Member

Posted: May 29, 08 2:22pm

arla,

If I were single we would be perfect for each other!

eversearch
eversearch
Founding Member

Posted: May 29, 08 3:19pm

Oh wow, I'm sorry if you've been hurt recently- but they're out there, really they are!

How long have you been single? Where are you looking? Even a bar isn't bad if it's before about 7pm. Alot of single hard working busy men prefer not to eat alone, so will go to the bar for dinner and a beer after a heavy day at work. They catch the news, maybe a game score...and go home alone long before the posers come out to prey on desperate women. At least thats how it is around my rural area- I couldn't tell ya about the city. But I'll tell you what, these aren't generally your button-down girly men.

I hope you find what you're looking for.