lack of sex drive.

I tip my hat to you folks for being together for 41 years. Lots of seniors have to deal with low sex drives so you are not alone. You need to get yourselves to a sex counselor.

There are some herbal preparations that can help enhance the sexual experience in women. However, you need to check with your doctor before trying them especially if you have a lot of medical problems. The two that I know about are Arginmax and Sentia. For some women, depending on the problem, Viagra works as well! So, I would go see your doc and find out if any of these may meet your needs!

I've tried several topical ideas - Viagra or anything like that is out of the question - they contain testosterone (hormones!). I have asked by GYN if she knows of anything - have also talked with an herbalist - nothing!!!

I have done some research - and I know that as a woman grows older, sex drive deteriorates. But, I want to help - I want our marriages to go forward - and according to my husband, sex is a VERY important part of that .... any other ideas? I'm open to just about anything!!!!

I'm 61 and don't consider myself "senior" even if others think that. How old are you? Sex drives are more a matter of the person and medical status rather than a chronological age

Sadly I have the opposite probem...plenty of sex drive (I'm 61) but no partner. Does a medical condition perhaps cause the problem? Are estrogen vaginal creams out of the question, they have little systemic absorption.

Good luck, it's hard when 2 people are not on the same sexual wave length.

Sex problems are so often not about sex. It is sad if he thinks there is something wrong with him and it would be sad if he thought there was something wrong with you.

I wonder if you might take pleasure in the intimacy of sex - even with little or no libido - if you were really feeling his love, if you felt really appreciated and treasured? I realize those are strong words for a relationship that is a bit past the honeymoon stage. But those feelings can make a person enjoy touch much more, and be at least willing to be sexual more often.

That's not to say there is anything wrong with him, but to say that there might be something he could do about it.

Have you gone to an Endocrinologist. There is a little slow growing tumor that can be found in the Pituitary, people rarely die of it, most don't know that they have one and live a full life.

But this little itsy bitsy tumor can cause HUMONGOUS havoc in ones body. And one of the symptoms can be lack of libido.

The Endocrinologist will test your hormone levels and possibly prescribe an MRI, but many times they are so small that they are hard to see even on an MRI.

If this is the case medicine can correct it.

One man had lost his sex drive and he was in his 60s. Apparantly his wife was okay with that. They found the tumor, gave him the medicine and voila he was back in business. But on one of his follow-up visits he announced that he divorced and was with a younger woman.

Another thought is that are you comfortable with sex and your body? Have you introduced your spouse to your clitorus? I'm not being sarcastic, but that seems to be where women find more pleasure.

You mentioned no hormones due to a medical reason. I'm 53 and had a radical hysterectomy for cancer in July, and I too cannot take hormones. But I do have a sex drive, but no partner.

Good luck, but check out the Endocrinologist.