I haven't had a orgsam in a year

His paying you so little attention or respect may or may not mean that there's someone else, but it certainly means that your pleasure isn't all that important to him. He's getting his.

You could either insist on his pleasuring you first the next time he wants sex of any sort. You could also buy a vibrator and learn to use it - first without him and then bringing it to bed with him and doing yourself so that he sees that you're pleasure is a necessary part of married sex.

Sorry to hear that! DAMN! Lemme help ya w/ that

This situation is about SO much more than sex. Let's start with respect. Take the sex out of the equation and look at the whole picture, then decide it the relationship is worth saving. Most of all, take care of yourself!

"clapping"...I couldn't agree more! Marriage is a 50/50 love-ship! Its seems you're doing it all! If you can't or choose not to find a way to solve this situation then it can become a bigger issue!

That's really too bad. My wife is more of a take in bed as well. Not that she is as bad as your husband, but it does feel one sided. I love making her feel good but when she can't give forth as much effort as I do, no matter how good the sex is, it is still lacking.

Sounds like he is selfish and it isn't fair to you at all. You need to be able to talk about this subject. In the mean time though, just remember that sex is like doing the laundry, if the machine is broken you have to do it by hand!

Everyone deserves to feel loved and wanted by their spouse or partner. You can find ways to satisfy yourself sexually, but the problem sounds deeper than that to me. I agree with some of the others; it's about so much more than sex; it's about respect.

It doesn't sound much like there is a relationship period! The foundation needs work! Get some help, read some books, and if he never participates in the relationship than you really don't have one and need to get out of what you don't even have!