Posted: Aug 16, 08
4:23pm
My daughter-in-law (not my grandsons mom) holds my grandson hostage unless I kiss her ass, and my spinless son allows it. This is not healthy for anyone. My grandsons mom refuses to let me see the grandson because my son committed adultery with his now wife. I did not support the new union and always got along with my ex-daughter-in-law. Still, I understand how she sees me as on his side. My new daughter-in-law sends emails to me and my family letting us know what we have to do to have a part in my grandsons life. My son backs her. He is spineless. My son is now 33, my new daughter-in-law is now 23. They recently had another baby. I live across country and have never seen the new baby nor do I feel any attachment. One of her emails was actually flagged by my work as hate mail and profiled. I defended her as "just a family squabble" out of embarrassment but I am devastated and don't know what to do. I am so angry at my son for having no backbone. His brothers nor any of the other relatives support him and all are angry at how he has treated me. I have spoiled him rotten and done far to much for him. Now I am paying the price. This vindictiveness started when I cut them off financially. I will not go back to my old soft ways on this issue. It is past time they both grew up. Never the less, the stepmother still controls my access to my grandson and there is no appeasing her. In their state I could likely win grandparents visitation but they would poison his mind against me. Do I have any option but to withdraw and mourn the loss of my grandson? Has anyone faced this situation? I am devastated.
