Advuce on a marriage in trouble

Granted, you should have asked or at the very least told him what you were going to do or did. However, that is not the case.

All marriages have squabbles. Fighting over money is a common ailment but a POOR excuse to end a marriage over. If he is that fragle, I say let him go and find someone who knows what a marriage is.

Thanks for reposting. Your husband is abusive. He has no right to lock you in anywhere. That is a form of kidnapping.

I agree that you were wrong to take money without first consulting with him - you are supposed to be partners, but his reaction was psychotic.

If he ends the marriage, you will be far better off without him. Did you grow up in an abusive home so that this kind of impossible behavior is deemed acceptable?

Get some counseling for yourself. You'd have a better chance of bringing back the dinosaurs than changing him from the way you describe him.

If you stay with him, I guarantee things will get worse. You work. You earn a living. Get out of there before you end up chained to the closet and he bricks it up behind you.

You need to be independant and he needs to be controlling. You can't have it both ways by trying to defy him. He is stronger and crazier than you ever dreamed of in your worst nightmares. He also has the disposition of a four year old ... a big and dangerous one.

If he really wanted to end the marriage, he would have done it. He is playing emotional blackmail games. See a lawyer without telling him first and determine your rights both as a spouse and as an individual re the locking you up against your will. He is a ticking time bomb.

You know you were wrong for not getting his ok first. And he was wrong in locking you in the garage, that's abusive behaviour. Now he is thinking about ending the marriage? That's a pretty harsh and impulsive reaction to display over a few temporarily misdirected bucks. You both need to talk this out carefully and maybe invest in some help from a counselor.

After you have apologized for your bad judgment ask for an apology for his abusive treatment. Then ask if he would consent to accompany you to marriage counseling so you repair the broken trust and learn how to fight fairly in the future. If he refuses, I would certainly consider going on your own to make some tough decisions about tye future.

Hello Milt T, thank you for your response. It was quite a bit of money of the last 3 months. I believe it totaled close to 1,500.00 You are right, I should have asked and my pride and independence didn't allow me too. He called me a series of names to include non trusting and sorry.

A few years back he was caught cheating. The lady called on the phone and i answered. She said she flew to visit him and he paid for half. She said she knew where her money was and asked if I would send it to her. I took the money and he found out. I never sent the money to the lady but ended up giving it back at a later time to him.

He's upset because he says I keep stealing from him. That was a totally different instance and of course I did grab her money with intent to give it to her. I felt it's the least I could do because she was in the same boat as me!

What do you think?

Thank you for your reply. Do you know of any other ways to repair broken trust? I just started a new job about 2 weeks ago and insurance and time would be a factor in trying to get counseling. My hours are real crazy and he works 2 jobs and it's demanding on his end.

I am open and he has mentioned that he would go before this but I was thinking of some other ways to rebuild trust.

This is like the 5th place on TeeBeeDee that you have posted your stupidity...Get a life girl and move off the forum ..Maybe check out MySpace !