Time for a "Line in the Sand". Boundarys are important.
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Posted: Dec 15, 07 7:56am First I want to thank all for responding to "What Would You Do" they where great. I also want to wish everyone a safe a...  Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:02amFirst I want to thank all for responding to "What Would You Do" they where great. I also want to wish everyone a safe a... I agree with whitemanitou. Watching an ex's behavior online can be addictive, obsessive, etc. It makes it harder to let go. Years ago I felt the same compulsion to look at what an ex was doing, and it made getting over him harder. Try to go cold turkey. 
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 Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:16amFirst I want to thank all for responding to "What Would You Do" they where great. I also want to wish everyone a safe a... Wow. Robin is right. You must have had reasons to divorce - to let her go, but the obsessiveness leads one to believe that you haven't let go. Maybe she is leading you on by saying that she still has feelings for you, which to some small degree may be true, but her actions say that she is looking for a new life. Let her go = set up boundaries like white manitou suggests. This situation as is, is TOXIC for you and will keep you in a bad mental place and prevent you from moving on. Perhaps from meeting the love of your life! Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:16amFirst I want to thank all for responding to "What Would You Do" they where great. I also want to wish everyone a safe a... Amen, sez the choir to WM's and Robins post. Boundries are important. If you tell her the behaviour is unacceptable, and there is no risk,... why stop? In one of my meetings with my subs, I was trying to deal with people involved in a political war within our company. My comment to them after being all touchy-feely, was "choices result in consequences." They understood. Stop or else. You obviously have feelings invested in this lady, that we don't here on TBD. Me? I wouldn't stand for it period. But I'm not in love. You? What are your choices? Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:30amTime for a "Line in the Sand". Boundarys are important.... whitemanitou Line in the sand has been drawn and I do agree that boundarys ar important Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:33amI agree with whitemanitou. Watching an ex's behavior online can be addictive, obsessive, etc. It makes it harder to le... RobinWolaner You see that is the thing...Ia was not and have not been looking for her.It just came my way...When I posted my profile she sent me the message that she was interested not me.Since I mentioned this to her I had canceld the ones that I was on so I would not come across Posted: Dec 15, 07 8:48amWow. Robin is right. You must have had reasons to divorce - to let her go, but the obsessiveness leads one to believe th... We were not married we had been engaged to be ....for five years...Go figure...There are still mattters that need to be settled and that is what I am trying to do, is to settle with all that we had and move on...I have no choice to to be in contact with her and work things out...and that is why it becomes very hard... she is dragging her feet and that what is becomming the problem... There is no more reasons to be dishonest with me ...its bad enough that she is dishonest with herself... hey, she went out and had a one night stand with someone ....not me it was over then and she moved on prior to that happening..If this is the kind of life you want to live ...then fine go for it .. and I know that there have been others since...and no i am not digging...it is just comming to me via her so called friends..and that will be mentiond to her too about how it comes my way .it will be some time down the road.Yeah, i am a fool but iam over that. I guess some people have to live in a lie in order to be happy. Its over its over...just say so and lets move on.I do not want to be a part of someone who is distroyeing themselfs and she knows it too. if you what more of the details e-mail me and I will | ADVERTISEMENT  |
