Starting a New Year with Death in Mind

StevenGrant

Posted: Jan 3, 08 11:50am

Lawrence Cheok has written an interesting article on using obituaries as a reminder to go out there and do the things that really matter.

"as you go about setting goals and resolutions for the New Year, bear in mind Death’s message and stop putting things off to someday."

* Write down your list of things that you have been putting off.

* Write down another list of things you want to STOP doing.Write down also the action plan to stop doing these:

o Pay someone else to do it.

o Delegate to someone else in your team to do it.

o Negotiate with a teammate who’s willing and happy to do it.

o Just stop doing it.

* Take out your calendar and schedule those things you want to do into a specific date (hopefully not too far from now).

* Talk to your family and friends about your dream and your resolution. Commit yourself. Put yourself on the line by announcing to the whole world what you plan to do.

* Take small and incremental actions starting today to fulfill those resolutions

the article: http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/starting-a-new-year-with-death/

I am wondering what things I need to focus on in 2008.

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Posted: Jan 3, 08 12:10pm

Lawrence Cheok has written an interesting article on using obituaries as a reminder to go out there and do the things th...

This is a list for a person whose age is such that the odds are about 99% that he will live to see the following year if he does nothing but clip hairs out of his nose. When life's ending is still at such a distance, the odds on anyone keeping a resolution longer than the time it takes to eat a hot dog without condiments is about nil minus seven.

Most of those actions are ones for people at an age where their vitality is still high and where they are still in the workplace where, if they do not do these things, their most probable loss is of employment, not of life.

It is those people a generation older that need a list to keep life meaningful. They no longer have the structures around them (work, family, friends, meaningful activities built in). They need to make life up to replace all the things you just described. Getting someone whose patterns still are all available and fixed to change, is not likely. They talk about it but keep on doing everything the same way they always did.

I have a saying about life: Just when you finally learn to identify and locate you own ass, either you get arthritis and you can't reach it or you get alzheimer's disease and you don't remember what it is.

So, all the lists in the world do not really change anything.

So I'm a pessimist. Sue me. My glass is always half full but after many years of seeking, I'd hate to tell you what it is half full of!

Have a wonderful day if you make lists and follow their precepts and have a wonderful day if you don't make lists and follow them.

Lollipops and unicorns

Posted: Jan 3, 08 5:05pm

Lawrence Cheok has written an interesting article on using obituaries as a reminder to go out there and do the things th...

Never really thought of the Obits as a source of motivation, I have thought of it as an alternate to the classified ads though.

AnitaP
AnitaP
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Posted: Jan 3, 08 10:29pm

Lawrence Cheok has written an interesting article on using obituaries as a reminder to go out there and do the things th...

I like this message.

It doesn't need to be a resolution...it needs to be a mantra.

I have a different comment on Obituaries. I have read them daily for years, at least 15 yrs. But I remember that on Sept 11, 2001, I felt so happy for the people in the obits, because they never had to know of such a horrific event.

Posted: Jan 4, 08 6:53am

I like this message.

It doesn't need to be a resolution...it needs to be a mantra.

I have a different comment on Obi...

I started reading obits after my heart attack at 50. Generally, they're pretty dry stuff: Old Joe died at age blank. He was a member of the blank, and served in blank...survived by blank and blank.

What you start seeing,(besides familiar names of people your age!), are some patterns of living and dying. Very often, if there is an obituary for someone younger than sixty, about half the time

the deceased is survived by children but no spouse, or mention of a pre-deceased spouse of partner. Did divorce shorten their lives?

Another pattern I've been noticing is one in which the middle-aged Deceased had a wonderful resume and an illustrious career with some big company, However,at the time of his/her death, the Deceased was a sales associate at Home Depot or Wal-mart. It suggests to me that all this corporate down-sizing and out-kicking also shortens life.

There are definitely lessons to be learned about life from the obits--how fast and profoundly it can change.