Maybe it is far better to be put on layaway than laid on putaway!
If your instinct tells you he is not committing, believe your instinct. If you just change your mind every time you read an article, stop reading articles.
Best of luck to you.
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Posted: Jan 23, 08 6:07pm I just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ...  
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 Posted: Jan 23, 08 6:08pmI just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ... I think that you're right about keeping you around as Plan B. He's looking for who's in greener pastures and that just may be his very sad character and/or fear to be really intimate or committed. I'd pull away and see what he does. If he's slow to do anything or does nothing, call it a day and go on to some one else who is more deserving of you. Posted: Jan 23, 08 6:13pmI just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ... Why not do both of you a favor and just ask him? Also ask how he sees the relationship progressing. Mind-reading is an imperfect skill at the best of times. Posted: Jan 23, 08 6:49pmI just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ... Better to be in lay-away than taken to the kerb on trash day, I always say. So you've known this feller for some time now. Does that mean you "know" him, and if so, what more are you looking for? Posted: Jan 23, 08 8:00pmI just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ... The only way you'll know for sure is to ask or make some move on your own. Why guess? "Do you think we could ever be more than friends?" is a perfectly reasonable question to someone you've known for some time. Posted: Jan 24, 08 8:24amI just read this article and it really hit home with me. I’ve known a man for quite some time now and would like it to ... I'm with the others who suggest a direct approach. Tell him what you're interested in and ask if that's what he's looking for. Once you have that information, you'll know how to proceed. You need to be clear about what you want and then ask for it. Posted: Jan 24, 08 8:56amI'm with the others who suggest a direct approach. Tell him what you're interested in and ask if that's what he's looki... I think TaliaHoffman is giving excellent advice here. Seems to me there's a considerable confusion about what folk want from each other. Women keep talking about "commitment" and I really don't know what that means. Does it mean it's not OK for us to fuck (Oops! "have sex") unless we are in a "committed relationship" and what's the difference between a "committed relationship" and being married and what the hell does being married mean and how do you deal with people changing? I knew the answers to all this when I was twenty-five. Do you know the answers for yourself? Can you say them out loud to this guy? | ADVERTISEMENT  |
