Celibacy! Sex or No Sex. It's a Choice Unless

Hey, my wife practices Celibacy. Has for more years than I can remember, so it has forced me to practice too.

Can't say much for it. It seem like taking a fulfilling part of life and ignoring it.

Sure, we can survive without sex, but why?

My wife says she loves me. I tell her that men need physical evidence. It's ignored. Seems like after the last child was born, my application ran its course. Sad.

I am a happily married celibate man. That is a contradiction in terms. I don't know if I'll get too sick of it in the future. I do know I would never get married again.

Yeah, see I get what you're both saying. When I was first married and for the 2 years before that, sex was like unbelievable. My girlfriends didn't believe me! But it was so good that sometimes I couldn't walk the next day. And then, HE wanted a child and being older than me, figured that we had to get in gear with having kids. We had two, 2 years apart and bam! Nada. Didn't get the deal of my taking care of 2 babies and working to finish my degree. He didn't complain or bitch because he was a f**king passive-aggressive pain in my ass. Was he jealous? Did it annoy him to have to give thought to other things and people when he wanted sex? I have no idea. So he forced me into "marital celibacy" for 7 years! That is punishment and they leave you with very little recourse without going outside the marriage.

Personally, I will never live that way again and I still can't believe that I lived that way for so long. I kept telling myself that I didn't want to break my family up but this mess affected everything and it took a long time for me to realize this.

After I divorced his ass, I went through a tough adjustment period with men who all wanted to marry me but there was always something off and I was at least smart enough to say NO NO NO. But what I found was that I didn't need to have a guy in my life all of the time. I was a single parent, working my ass off in a high-pressured profession and I just needed a break. I did this deliberately - believe me - and took it sometimes for 6 months, sometimes 3 years. And it was good for me because I choose that lifestyle and I knew what I needed to focus on before going into another relationship. Relationships can be wonderful and exciting, etc., but they can also be draining as hell and I've had more than my share of crazies. They act really normal - hook you in - then get their crazy on!

Being forced to be in the situation you guys are in forces you to either look really seriously at it or to resign yourselves to settle. Personally, sex is very important in my relationships and when a guy uses it against me, it's such a betrayal, and I won't accept that any more from anyone. Frank is right - why accept it? Answer your own question.

I saw that ....LOL & dbl chuckle ...!

I read this post out of curiosity ..the content is so foriegn to me and mine. I have never had to deal with it but have heard of it before.!

I honestly can not imagine how to understand why a person wold do that to a partner.

Froggy

I don't see why anyone would practice celibacy. What practice do you need to do nothing?

Also, this reminds me: What is the difference between a virgin and a whore?

A virgin is celibate

A whore will sell a bit.

Jeez, Louise, did I say that?

Sounds like you "hit bottom" pretty hard in the marriage/sex/relationship department - I can totally understand why you would wanna give it a rest and get yourself together. Maybe someday you'll want to get back in the game? Maybe not? Either way s'long as you stay in the driver's seat and do what's best for yourself, you'll be the doing the best you can for others too.

My $.02.

I'm a bit in shock! Milt has a sense of humor!! WOW

To be serious for a minute or so, there is a serious difference between being forced into not having sex because your partner is just refusing (which I have a hard time understanding), and making a thoughtful choice to not be out there meeting men, having one night deals or short term sometimes messy situations or god forbid, starting a relationship when you shouldn't. Taking a break to reassess what you want, what you'll accept, what are deal breakers, and being true to yourself instead of settling is a good thing for everyone even if its for short periods of time. Change the focus for a bit and you may not only find some answers for yourself but become ready to find the perfect person for you.

I'm aware that there are so many people on tbd that are married and there's no sex. I think that this situation is really wrong. What are you guys doing to change this situation and why are you putting up with it? Its been so long since I've been in this situation it's a little hard for me to relate to today. I mean when I'm with a man that I love, or may love sometime in the future I'm like a nympho!

Don't more women get it that sex doesn't have to be boring and monotonous? It can be an adventure, a sport, risky business. What a shame that so many couples are missing out on such fun.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!!!

Tweedle just put in his 2 cents. This is my 5 cents!

Everything with a woman costs more. lol