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No, from what I can tell, having followed this site for over a month, alternative points of view are welcome. Not often are extreme views presented, but they are very necessary. Certainly your opinions will be debated, and there are some very good writers of both sex who will respond. Quite a few are witty.

Certainly, the site has pretty liberal views on sex and sexuality, relationships, health, and caters to both sides of the political divide. I am not familiar with many other group topics. In my mind, what's somewhat missing is big "upsetting" controversies/issues.

When you present your beliefs and arguments, be prepared for a diverse discussion. The site is freethinking.

I think there are plenty of controversial topics and conversations. There are groups dedicated to open conversations about political issues and/or other 'tough questions'. You're even a member of many of them.

I think you'll find that MOST people are polite when they disagree. But I don't believe that they hold back from expressing differing opinions. And I would hope that being polite isn't considered a negative thing. Most of us are grown ups, and behave as such . . . but we DO disagree, and once in a while even tweak one-another's noses.

WHy yes, OG, this happened to me just this morning. One nose tweakiing, coming up!

It made me ask myself, "If someone already KNOWS the answer to the question they are posting, why are they posting the question?"

So I was then instructed to review my own existance (or some such equally "up yours" kind of retort) since I disagreed with the predetermined answer of the poster.

Delightful! Bawdy! Stimulating! Definitely stimulating, perchance not in such a delightful way....

What ever you do....don't mention peanut butter.

People freak over this simple confection.

It makes you stop & ask yourself...WTF???

I'm going to make a huge confession here. I got very upset about that girl's nipples and I hid behind some sanctimonious crap about how TBD should not allow such and how we are about words here and I even quit for a week over it. But you know what, I've had to face it. I was jealous. Maybe not jealous of her perky boobs cause mine are okay I guess but jealous of the nerve. She honestly admitted that she wanted to turn people on with her picture. I was jealous of her honesty and okay her nice picture. I could post some pictures and I've directed a few to some paintings of me but I'm too afraid. She's not afraid of anyone. I'm jealous of that too.

And my little fit got her boob off I guess although she made a huge deal out of our scorn and I think she was mostly responsible for the red flag but I'm dealing. I've learned something about myself. I've also learned not to go into discussions that might offend me. Finally I've realized that I don't have to post on every thread. I don't have to have something to say about everyone and everything. Finally!!!!

Sorry to vent. I've felt bad about this. I'm jealous. I'm getting old and I'm sad about that. I guess cleverness counts for something but I don't get the looks I used to get. That hurts but I can't do anything aboutit. (tit)

And see now i feel stupid because this has turned into a joke about peanut butter. You never know what's going to happen on TBD. That's the best thing about it and the worst thing.

Spuff: It's the juxtaposition of chunky peanut butter and certain body parts that profoundly disturbs me.

More generalized, this could be nothing more than a sensitivity to spreads.

I have found this site to be welcoming to different points of view. What I like about it is that there are, in general, people who actually use their brains before they write something most of the time. There are exceptions, of course, but I personally feel I can express whatever opinion I want to. The key to expressing an opinion is to be able to back it up with reason and logic. It's one thing to say something like " I think President Bush is a jerk" or "I think President Bush is a great President" but then, explain why you think this way.

Like any site, there are a few people that reduce themselves to name calling and personally offensive comments when they are unhappy with themselves or disagree with someone else's opinion. If this is how someone likes to be entertained, they need to watch the Jerry Springer show. That is not what this site is about.

It is important to note that there are healthy ways to disagree with someone. Personal attacks and criticism are not good ways to express a differing opinion. Stating your position and explaining why is a better way to do this. I find that most people do this on TDB, which is why I frequent the site.