That's sad!

That's true!

Isn't it primarily the sadness of shallow Hollywood-promoted values of what attraction is about ... it is often true that good looks is what gets the fast first attention but it wears off really fast and if it isn't connected to all the rest of our positive being values it leads no-where...

This is good writing, and the point is well made.

I used to have a friend, in her 40s at the time, who complained about how she was now "invisible" when walking on the streets, since men didn't stare at her. I think this was hard for her to take because she had physical beauty and had been accustomed to having her ego fed by attention from men. I felt this was sad, especially since my friend was married, and so presumably it might be thought that she'd no longer crave such attention.

I agree with carl R Lindstrom about the sadness of shallow Hollywood-promoted values of what attraction is about. It is infortunate that so many women have absorbed these values. Men too; many of them are looking for their fantasy woman in terms of physical appearance, and can't recognize other types of inner and outer beauty.

A whole new big thread what the movie industry's impact on all our values is, promoting the most primitive of values, for both women and men ... why would the clothing industry for example spend billions on showing their clothes in media if we didn't consciously or unconsciously, copy and take on what we see ? So Hollywood does not only "entertain" -- they promote values even more so and feed often stupid role clichés. What can be done about it, I don't know...

They way I interpreted this was a time in my life in which I could relate. I was very unahappily married and didn't want to attract attention to myself. I literally wanted to become invisible. You then start to dress in a manner in which people don't give you a second glance, you fit into or blend into the background. Now that I am out of the marriage my style of dress has completely changed. I do not follow fashion trends...just what I like and what looke good on me. Well done, Tuesdays Ruby.

Thanks...that makes me feel not so invisible :)