Yolo Bear, this seems like too good a concept not to participate. Deep breath...here we go.

I've been told I give an amazing blow job. However, my tip is not on how to give a blow job, but rather how to receive more of them. (One of the most common complaints I hear from my guy friends is that their SO doesn't really enjoy giving oral sex. So here are the tried and true steps to getting the blow jobs you want and possibly creating an oral addiction for your SO.

First, keep it clean boys. Different guys need to go to different lengths to have a pleasing scent and texture in this area. Closely trimmed pubic hair is a plus, shaving your balls if you are hoping to have them licked or sucked is great. I had a lover who never shaved them. We finally got him "hair free" there when we played a game with flavored oil and a razor. I shaved him clean, wiped away any residual hair, and then licked and sucked the remaining oil from his balls. A male friend of mine found his wife really loved it when he asked her to do the same for him. She was never very oral before, but loved the smoothness and the slick way they moved in her mouth.

Don't be aggressive with your partner. Tell her how much it would mean to you for her to treat you to a little sucking. Don't grab her head, or start thrusting in her mouth. Lay on the bed and have her kneel beside you facing toward your feet...angle of least resistance. Then just let her take control.

If she does something that feels especially good, moan, call out, respond like a porn star. Let her know it's really working. If she hurts you pull back and say "easy, easy". This is far less harsh than some of the reactions that I have heard women friends discuss from their LAST time they ever gave their guy oral.

When she is done, she is done....don't try to get it to go longer. She will be more likely to do it again for you if you respect her limits.

Finally, praise the hell out of her when you are cuddling after the remaining sex play. The more special it seems to her the more likely she will want to repeat the experience. And believe me, the things she will do will expand over time.

Hope someone finds this helpful. Play nice, have fun!

I try to praise as much as possible during and after--though after I'm sort of in a pleasantly light coma....

I agree with everything here. Those same hygeine issues go in the case of oral sex for both genders.

Normally, I am a morning shower person, so most of my lovers realize that when I say I am taking a shower at night, it is a hint for lovemakeing.

However, I would say that about 50% of my lovers don't care to find out what a man enjoys. This is a bit disheartening, because as a lover, I am very giving, which means going into great effort to learn what my partner enjoys, not only physically but emotionally when it comes to making love. Tough part is that one gets attached to people and therefore a bit trapped in the conundrum. Who will leave someone they care for because the partner isn't as giving of a lover?

The thing I look for most in a BJ is the same thing I provide in cunninglingus -- enthusiasm -- for me and for what we are doing, sharing pleasure. I want to be doing it for her pleasure. One of things that really doesn't work is if women equate the tip of my penis to their nipples or clit and treat it as such in their BJs. Hey we're built different. Happens often enough, and frankly it has more of the effect of making feel like I want to pee. One the problems I have is though I take direction well from my lovers in what pleases them, in many of my lovers some approval seeking defense mechanism kicks at even a simple request such as "run your tongue up and down the bottom of my penis." Don't get me wrong. Not saying all women are like this, but there are few I wish would be willing to discuss technique.

I ran into this the most when I was working in the film industry and would find myself dating models. A lot, not all, of them seemed to not care to learn the art of lovemaking and simply took the attitude of "here's fabulously built, good looking me. What more do you need?"

I think the key to being a great lover and helping your lover become a greater lover is all wrapped up in enthusiasm. It's like the day I gave my lover the "gift" of a day to dominate me. He tied me up and blindfolded me. I'm a control freak...this wasn't going to be my thing. After I stopped fighting it, I absolutely loved it. He was so enthusiastic about all the plans he had for me that day...the orgasms were off-the-planet wild!

I love your comment about the tip of the penis. I feel the same way about men who focus on nipples...they are attached to these amazing things called breasts. Play, go crazy with them, and I will just drink in the pleasure! *Naughty smile

A few years ago, I wrote an expose for one of the Chicago weekly publications about dominatrix's in the Chicago area, bot the "lifestyle" type and the "for hire by the hour" type. Interesting thing was that in the for hire category, the clients were generally big business men of power in their jobs, while in the lifestyle, the submissive partners mostly came from the military.

Blindfold and handcuffs are one of my favorite games, as long as no pain is inflicted

Great comments so far. I think for a man, the enthusiasm of having sex, actually enlightens it. I also like a woman who verbal - moaning or even talking dirty. Although this is not a technique, telling a man what you want is helpful to us. I am curious on what technique woman like on both oral, and anally. thoughts?

That's what the 69 position is good for!!