Posted: Aug 26, 07 4:02pm
I just came back home from an afternoon, first full date with a gentleman I met online.
I have recently separated from a date where sex was an extremely small part of our interaction. Lots of discussions, dining out, musical events, reading NYTimes - very civil and intellectually stimulating - but I did feel like the phycisal intimacy was missing -
I recently spent the afternoon with a new gentleman I met online. We had a lovely afternoon driving to look at significant architecture, have brunch, but the sexual banter was continual. He early into the date stated he would like to ravish me and indicated he had a hard on and had to carry his camera in front of his pants to hide it - - I can't say I was not titillated, but it seemed too forward on the first date - even though his educational credentials, his vocabulary and his business/ life style seemed appealing - the constant discussion of how many dates until we could sleep together - colored the rest of his qualities -
So where is the balance in these situation as an older woman....surely I have baggage from past relationships, certainly some upbringing voices about being good - but is this ok - to have this much focus on sex - can a relationship still thrive -
I believe I will see him again and know where this could be headed - to bed - he said he could not make it to date three without sex - how does one respond to this ?
either gender have insights and guidance?
