Your right.

Being happy in the life you choose is the point of it! How nice that you are. NOw, when a possibility comes along that presents other choices (like someone appealing who wants to form a couple), that's the time to examine what you want rather than run away. You can always choose again to remain single. You can't always to choose to couple. Don't sabotage you choices out of fear.

Thank you, Isadora. I know you're right.

annie!just a mans point of veiw:if you long for a reationship then perhaps it is time to seek it.often times we are lonely and jump at the chance to dive in the pool but sometimes we have been alone so long we forget that the best thing is to check the water first.then after you make the commetment to actually seek the realationship and you find the one your heart desires and all is clam in your heart and youve taken enough breath then and only then should you dive into the pool!admit ur lonely 1st so you dont just grab any poolboy:)leland

i know how you feel. it just gets easier being alone and not answering to anyone. i see friends and they stress over where their husbands or boyfriends are, or they 'have to go' because of their better half. i don't want that anymore. and yep, i run from those guys who get serious. no one wants a broken heart, but maybe part of it is because like me, you just don't want to answer to anyone anymore. the older i get, the more i feel that way lol. what you said is not rambling, it's you being honest. i respect that. it's cool take care

I'm happy for you. And I think you're a fine example to all the people who have posted feeling glum because they're newly single and don't know what to do with themselves. Every one of them should read your post.

Annie,

I think that being happy being single is a good thing but to also maybe want more is healthy. I believe if the right one comes along he will be a friend first and earn your trust. This way you will not have the needing to run when one wants to get serious. Building a relationship takes time. It takes trust and understanding especially after being single for a long period of time and being independent. A man or woman for that matter needs to understand this in an independent person and realize that building a relationship is going to be slow going but worth the time it takes to invest in it. I believe maybe these men moved a little too fast before you were ready and had not earned your full trust. I always believe go with your gut feeling. If the person makes you feel comfortable, relaxed and becomes a good friend that is the start of a wonderful relationship. If they become too serious too fast or want you to change your habits and interests to match theirs than the natural urge is to run away. This goes both ways. There has to be some independence allowed on both sides which I think many miss the boat taking this as meaning the relationship is not a good one when actually it is healthy.

Sasha