Posted: Jun 2, 08 6:59pm
Back when I was in High School and College I remember the stigma of divorce. That was a long time ago. In those days it was tough to get a divorce. One of the partners had to prove that the other had done something really, really bad. Being divorced was a mark of failure. Girls were warned against dating any man who was divorced. We guys all wanted to date divorced women for one reason. They had experienced SEX!! and probably wanted more. But, we were warned aganst ever considering marrage to a divorced woman. Your wife was susposed to be a virgin. Banks would not loan money to divorced women. And on, and on.
Then, in the late sixties/early seventies the Unreconcileable Differences plea became an acceptable reason for divorce.
Slowly divorce became acceptable. Divorce still creates lots of problems for the individuals, but the stigma is now largly nonexistant.
Then there is separated. Try explaining why you are separated.
Others look at you like you are some kind of alien.
If you are divorced, friends will now try to get you back in the dating game. If you are separated, they consider the fact that you might want to date unacceptable, an abomination.
Our Society is designed for couples. Try to eat out by yourself. Prices for most vacation activities are based on two people. It goes on and on.
Tee Bee Dee just recently split the Divorced/Separated category. Was it done at the behest of the divorced people? I think so. I guess they felt that their being put in the same category as the separated tainted their reputation
I am separated. I live and travel in a Motorhome. Most of my story is of course contained in my profile, which anyone can read.
The wife and I have been married for 37 years. We raised two sons. we were a military family so we moved around a lot. I was gone frequently.
We both have college degrees. we have similar political beliefs.
But, over the years we found that there were a number of things that we did not agree on and it seemed that the only way to make the marrage work was to kind of stay away from those areas. And ultimately
to separate. There are many reasons to not divorce. Health care being one.
I have observed that their are many couples who live together but constantly bicker. They seem very unhappy. they can not agree on any thing. Why do they stay together?
Are we better off divorced, separated, or staying together?
