Posted: Jun 5, 08 4:31pm
Okay don't get me wrong. I am not a male basher. I love guys and I would really like to meet a nice one. I had not dated anyone for about 5 years because lets face it, its safer that way. Plus I really hadn't met anyone that I wanted to get to know better. So I made a conscious choice to PUT MYSELF OUT THERE and start dating. I met one guy at work who came across as very much a gentleman, very considerate, kind, respectful, cute and someone I would like to get to know. He asked me out and I took him up on coffee as it is in a public place. We went for a walk afterwards. Much to my surprise I end up not only trying to keep his hands out of my shirt and my pants but I also have to fend off his trying to put my hand down his pants. Now I'm all for kissing and warming up to each other but that is just WAY out of the ballpark for me on a first date. Women and men both want mind blowing sex. There is not a thing wrong with that. For me though and I suspect a lot of other women....50% of that mind blowing sex is in my mind. I have been able to have an orgasm just closing my eyes and thinking about the person I cared about. I have been able to get wet down to my knees just by looking at that person across a room.....no touching involved. But when it comes to going on a date with someone who wants to get overly familiar with me right from the get go....nothing turns me off faster. Okay, so you think this is an isolated incident. Not so. I met another guy this last month. We emailed back and forth for about a month before I agreed to go for a motorcycle ride up into the mountains for breakfast. Again, he was very polite and respectful and just a really nice guy. On the way back though just about the same thing happened. I'm sorry but I am not going to do the Monica Lewinski on the side of the road and what makes men think that that type of behavior is acceptable, to turn from being a very nice guy into an asshole. Needless to say I will not date either of these men again. It does make me wonder....do guys over 50 only want one thing from a woman? Why do they think it is okay to be so rude? How can they be so polite and respectful when asking you out yet turn into a animal on the first date. It surely makes me rethink this "PUTTING MYSELF OUT THERE" all over again as I don't care to go through that experience with every first date. So your probably wondering maybe its some kind of vibe that I am giving off. I remembered having the conversation with both of them that I had not dated for a while and I was just looking to take things slow and see where it goes. So my question again is....What is it with men??
