No, you can't do it any more. You need to move on. She needs to move on.

You actually have gained much strength by providing so much strength. You will surprise yourself as to how amazing you have become. Take heart. You just need to step outside and let her go. You will see!

Thank you so much Karen for your encouraging words--i need to hear them from someone who can be objective and netral so i can see it for myself--again thanks for being there. I am here too;OK?

I'm sorry, Billy. This is tough! But you know, it sounds to me like you have already been through some pretty tough times and you're still here! You must be made of some pretty strong stuff!

It's going to be hard, that's true. But you've already taken the first step by coming here and venting. I'll bet you feel better already.

Your next step is to make a decision, and then act on it, whatever it may be.

And, just keep remembering how strong you really are!

Billy: Read some of the other posts with similar problems like your own. It's amazing how many people suffer equally over similar situations! You don't need to feel alone - that's one common friend!

Be kind to yourself. You will see great things happen.

Honey, this too shall pass. Sometimes moving on is the right thing to do. It sounds like you will have more than enough strength to hold yourself up through this difficult time (esp. since now you don't have to be strong enough for two). You can make it.

This week I take the final step to end a 26 year marriage. I left him 10 years ago because he had become a serial cheater and kept having substance abuse problems. I didn't have the heart to divorce him then. Recently he cause me severe financial difficulty because of that. If I can do it so can you, hon. Good luck. I'll be here cheering for you ;-)

again thanks Karen

Thank You witchy,it sounds like you know how i feel--Billy