Things always happen for a reason. And, I believe the reason is that there is something or someone better out there in this world for you. Don't look back. Proceed forward. Seek counseling. Do something special for yourself, even if it is something simple. Sadness just gulps us up into tangled messes. Be a proud Mom of your children. They are yours. Seek faith, prayer and others who are in the same situation as you, to help you through this time. Don't delay, the longer your insecurties remain with you, the harder it will be for you to go forward to be the person, that special person, that God has wanted you to be. This too shall pass...there will be bright skies and rainbows again awaiting you. I will say a prayer for you.

(((((MAG)))))

Every morning get out of bed, get dressed including shoes and make a list of three thing you need to accomplish today; sign up for driving lessons; make appointment with doctor for check up (let him/her know what's going on);call a friend you can lean on. Do something everyday before you know it you will be in charge of your own life and standing on your own two feet.

It will get better but you need to be a part of that process.

Now take a deep breath, you can do this.

Mag, the best thing I can say to you is that you WILL be ok. It does take time, I've been there. Right now, you need to keep busy, focus on your kids and yourself. Make it a priority to get that drivers liscense. Learn to be as independant as you can. you will feel so empowered and proud of yourself!

As far as the in-laws go, if a continued relationship with them is important to you, be sure to have a heart to heart and let them know. After years my ex Mother-in-law still sends me BD cards and calls around the holidays, even though my ex is re-married. You will be amazed at the things you will learn about yourself through-out this process. If you ever need to talk, send me a message.

Tammy

You'll survive this. People do. But it's not easy. I urge you to find a support group for people who are newly divorced. Ask your attorney or a social worker or your county mental health service. Or consider private therapy. You need support. More support than most people feel comfortable asking their friends for. That's where support groups and therapists come in. Do whatever it takes to get the support you need.

Mag123

Everyday that goes by will make you into the new person you will become. Lean on as many people as you can and always know that there is someone who cares about you and remember your children will be your light.

Get out there and get the license. Talk to your inlaws-you will always have a connection to them due to their grandkids. They will be relieved to hear you want to stay close. Everyone involved in your life and that of your children have fears about what will happen next. You decide what is best for you. And then do it immediately.

Maybe the best thing in your life is around the corner waiting for you. I know you are in pain. But we are here.

(((MAG)))I just wrapped by my Divorce last month. If you need support, words of comfort, hugs, etc., shoot me a message and I'll do what I can to support you.

Charlie

I have been divorced for 2 years so far BUT I live with my X and there is NO SEX! We both fell out of love. It is possible to have the spouse as a friend, I know its possible I am living proof!

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