Posted: Jun 5, 08 11:02am
My wife and I have been married for over 25 years. We get along ok / have a decent friendship. We've had the sense that we were drifting apart for years now. Did marriage counseling a couple years ago and we both lost interest and stopped going. Started back up with a better counselor in the past few months. We both tend to naturally avoid confronting each other, but now we are talking more about things -- in and out of the counselor's office. At one point she said she wanted to end it, and then the next day tearfully changed her mind. Emotionally, we're finding we are worlds apart -- she has no desire for expressing affection -- physically or otherwise, but I am a very affectionate person and need to be with someone who is likewise. I feel like I'm more of a security blanket for her than an object of her love and desire. And truthfully, it's probably more fear of the unknown that keeps me from ending it rather than wanting to be with her.
More and more I'm becoming convinced that the best thing is to end the marriage, but feel like I maybe am being selfish, that I haven't tried hard enough, or that she'll be so hurt she'll close herself off from other possible relationships.
How do we end it?












