Posted: Jul 8, 08 4:33am
I was married to a man who cheated through our entire marriage, fortunately it was shortlived (4yrs) and he was also abusive. Has been 9 months where he was supposed to buy me out of the house or we list it on the market. (This was supposed to be done within two months of the separation.) He is doing everything possible to delay, stall and prevent him buying the house or it being listed on the market. I was given use and possession of the house and he has to pay a large sum to me each month towards maintenance of the house.
Why do something like this when being a realist it would be much easier on both of us to dispose of the house so we can both move on to better and healthier lives. Why cheat but want to hold on? Why lie but want to play the victim? Why abuse and believe the other party caused this behavior?
It is quite sad in the sense that I have moved on. Reaching the point where enough was enough. No excuses for lying, cheating and abuse worked anymore. My physical safety was at risk and I ended it. Would he have rather we waited until I was in the hospital, he was in jail and lost his job due to the abuse? What can he possibly hope to obtain by holding up the disposition of the house that we built? I do not believe it is anything to do with financing as I know he can get this. Wouldn't it be far easier to use the next woman so he can start over again? Once the year is completed, three months, the divorce can be finalized.
Sasha
