Couldn't agree more - the two go hand in hand. Trust is the most valuable and foundational thing for a relationship - good for you two for being able to maintain it.

Generally, what you sow is what you reap. Trust begets trust; give freedom and respect to your mate and you'll receive the same. But freedom and trust is a delicate thing; use it well, just don't abuse it.

I find that people tend to expect people to behave how they behave themselves. I'm open, honest and fair so I naturally assume that's how people are being with me...until they prove otherwise!! Don't get me wrong sometimes I feel a little jealous but I embrace and enjoy the fact that I care about someone enough to care if I see them with someone else...I just don't act on it!!

My hat is off to you...as the years pass you will be tested - so be ready, print your comment and place it in a safe place so you can read it over and over (if) things go not as planned. I don't mean to be negative just honest!

Hi Dee1 - wasn't sure who your hat was off to. If its to me then thanks. And I have been there...i was living with a guy who liked to travel, but as I couldnt travel as much because of my daughter I used to let him go on his own. One day I mentioned that I planned to go away on my own one day as I've always wanted to do that and he was very upset and kept insisting that I couldnt go on my own. Turns out that he was cheating on me whenever he went away! So I said bye to him. But I still give new people I meet, friends or lovers the benefit of the doubt - I trust them until they prove otherwise. Most of the time I'm right!

Marva ... Great attitude. Like Sam said, "don't act like a police in your own house." Using the Law of Attraction, giving full trust to your spouse (without a shred of jealousy), begets like action; i.e. your husband will make sure that your trust in him is not in vain (and likewise, he'll trust you too). Add jealousy and suspicion, and this will not make this work.

By adding Dee 1's ... "if things go not as planned" will attract exactly that, that things will not go as planned.

Just sharing what I learned from "The Law of Attraction". Hope this helps everyone who reads it.

my exhusband and I were never good friends. This led to al sorts of problems, and even though we were married for nearly 20 years, we never did become friends.

My boyfriend of nearly 3 years is my best friend. We have that open relationship like you and your husband. We share a home, share our lives, and each have our separate spaces within that frame. I've never been happier.