Posted: Dec 26, 07 5:26am
You've "split the sheets", divorced or gone separate ways. What do you do?
You try to look inside and "own" your part of the problems. This takes time and a decent grieving/mourning period for the death of a marriage and relationship.
What type of person did I attract? What about me caused that person to be attracted to me?
The thing NOT to do is to try to immediately fill that void. Reflect, see friends, get out and do things you like to do but have not done for years because she/he wasn't "into that". Always "know" you are vulnerable or jaded because of what you have been through. You will need time to heal and put your life into perspective. You are not a "ball on the rebound". Although you want desperately to fill that void, caution is your byword.
understand if you have kids, they will require your attention. And, let's face it folks "Other people's kids" are usually NOT why people enter into healthy relationships.
What is the point to all this? TIME! Time is your friend! Be with it and learn from it.











