Posted: Mar 27, 08 2:16pm
So what does one discuss in a married room. I have traveled many different "feelings" over this shared living with this partner who lives eats and breaths in close proximity to my own being. Somedays alien comes to mind. Other days it is a sincronicity that no words are necessary just a dance.
Then there are the boxing matches WHEW! duck and or stand for your rights.
Personally, I choose peace than being right. To be right then someone is wrong and well, right, wrong or peace you decide! Arguments when cyclical are just too energy draining. Most arguments in my experience arrive out of feeling not secure or safe about an issue. I have learned that safety comes from within. If we can take care of each others selves the rest will follow healthily so. However; I am a human with many flaws.
Gee, I hope so!
Unfortunately the english language is limited to much of the descriptions I could be using for marriage and my other writings.
When first we met ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh indeed our mutual interest in music and of course lust brought us together. Eyes locking pheromones heated. It was like dogs sniffing each other out you know. The human attraction beyond the "hey how ya doing don't call me I'll call you". At first we slept in a "believe it or not" single bed, for 2 years! Now are arrangements are quite different as snoring is involved and separate bedrooms are convenient! <smirk> Reminds me of the egyptian pharos and there "concubines or wives" when the urge of sexuality arrives, the 2 meet in the "sex" chamber. Marriage, lets see. I guess as the individual in each of us has evolved so has this relationship. Not evolving equally however progress in the relationship exists. Still with some old under carpet dust that percolates outward annoyingly so. Either to be cleaned up or tramped on for another day. Plus, there is the gracious learned lessons from yesteryears that are what now seems to be WHAT WERE WE ARGUING ABOUT THAT FOR? SILLY US!
This dance of marriage is indeed much about compromise. In my experience it has been like 2 kids in a sandbox somedays. Sometimes oceans apart and sometimes interlocked as a vine rooted deeply in a foundation of multi generated organisms of gathered strength we gained over the years.
P.S
The pheromones are still delicious!







